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Is masturbation wrong because it is pleasurable?
Question: Mr. Hamilton, A Christian friend of mine brought to my attention concerning masturbation, that since the purpose and context for which God created sex to be used is between a married man and woman, (at least as far as the Bible speaks of) that masturbation is in opposition to God’s design for sex and…
Read MoreHow do I tell people I’m not interested in preaching?
Question: Hello, Hope you can answer a question of mine that I need a biblical answer to. What to say to people who come up to you and ask you, “Why don’t you preach?” I tell them not everyone is meant to be a teacher, and like it says in Bible not everyone is meant…
Read MoreIs it wrong not to attend a family dinner hosted by a couple who are living together unmarried?
Question: Dear Jeff, Is it wrong for me to not attend a family dinner because the ones hosting it are living together unwed? They are not Christians, they are Baptist. I do not want to approve of sin be it through words or actions. Answer: “But now I have written to you not to keep…
Read MoreMy daughter was raped and is now pregnant. Should I have the baby aborted?
Question: My daughter was date raped and is now pregnant with her rapist’s child. I don’t know what to do because the Bible says abortion is wrong, but she is only 14. I am considering an abortion, but I don’t know what to do seeing how it’s sin. Please, I need help! Answer: I’m sorry…
Read MoreI’m not interested in getting married, but how do I deal with my sex drive?
Question: I am a 19-year-old college student, have never dated in my life, and am never planning to. I plan to go into the mission field once I graduate, and I have decided that it would probably be best to never marry in order to be able to focus on my ministry. However, I have…
Read MoreI try not to drink or fornicate, I still end up doing it, and I really need help
Question: Hello! I have a question about getting away from sin. I have been struggling for a few years in certain areas and I have come to the point where I am ready to change but at the same time as much as I try not to drink or fornicate, I still end up doing…
Read MoreWhat should I do? My mom and I are always arguing
Question: I’m 23 years years old and a single mom. My mom has helped me out a lot financially, but she can be confrontational and a bit abusive in her speech. I always argue with her over things, and we never can seem to get along for very long. My mom always points out what…
Read MoreBecause we are to sing psalms and the Psalms mention instrumental music, doesn’t this mean we can use instrumental music?
Question: I have a friend who says it’s OK to use instruments in worship because of Psalms. He says that we are commanded to sing psalms to which he says how can we sing psalms and not believe what it says when David said to praise God with instruments. What can I say to him…
Read MoreYour sermon outlines are very helpful to me as I prepare sermons
Question: Thank you and your congregation for your web site. Your sermon outlines are very helpful to me as I prepare sermons. I wanted to make sure your efforts are appreciated. Answer: Why thank you very much. I’m glad the information is being put to good use.
Read MoreAm I being selfish and covetous in marrying a woman who had a child by another man?
Question: Greetings, I met my fiancée last year and we became friends. We go to the same church. Later we decided to pray and ask God if we should get married and we did get confirmation. So we went to our pastor and told him of our decision. We are planning to get married next…
Read MoreIs Discipleship Time scriptural?
Question: Hello, I have been reading the La Vista Church of Christ website articles and answers for over a year now and have even visited a few sister churches that I found through this website. I greatly appreciate the wisdom and insight that I find through this website! Now I have a question I can’t seem to…
Read MoreDoes Luke 7:48-50 prove that baptism is unnecessary?
Question: I need help with the following question: Does Luke 7:48-50 prove that we do not need to be baptized to be saved? Can you help me with an answer that shows that these verses are not inconsistent with the teaching that baptism is essential for salvation? It is being argued that since the woman’s…
Read MoreIs it sinful to listen to music with bad language and references to sinful acts?
Question: Good afternoon, I was recently in the backseat of my friend’s car when she started playing illicit music on her phone. When I later confronted her about it, she told me that while she doesn’t believe it is recommended, it is not a sin. She said that God may have to reveal something to…
Read MoreBoth David and Saul sinned and admitted they sinned, so why was the kingdom taken from Saul but not David?
Question: Hi, Good day to you. I hope you are well. My question is about two men from the holy Scriptures: King Saul and King David. When Saul sinned against God, God took the kingdom away from him, but when David sinned, God did not take away the kingdom from him. Keep in mind that…
Read MoreI started out joking with a coworker, but it has gotten out of hand. How do I stop it?
Question: Hi again! You answered a question I had previously, but I was wondering if I could ask you for some more advice. I realize there are people in my life who are good Christians, I’m just not sure how to ask for advice when I’m the one usually giving it. I started working at…
Read MoreWhy is I Corinthians 7:27 translated differently?
Question: My question is, 23 different bibles all say the same thing. They specifically say “divorced from your wife” no problem there. Yet there are 7 different biles that also say the same thing. Instead of saying divorced from your wife they say ” if you are unmarried” here’s the problem with the word “unmarried”. Does it literally mean that…
Read MoreI find myself not caring like I used to
Question: Hello, I’m a 16-year-old girl. I received Christ as my personal Saviour for about 2 or 3 years now. But recently something has been bugging me. I feel as if my conscience has left or something. It sounds crazy or stupid, but I find that I have to force myself to feel guilty or…
Read MoreI have a good-paying secular job, but what I really want to do is preach
Question: Hello, I am a recent college graduate, and I currently have a secular job with a high salary. I don’t know, but I always feel sad whenever I’m going to work, thinking that this is not the world I wanted to be in, this is not the job I wanted to do. In short,…
Read MoreI need some advice on time management
Question: I’d like some advice, if you will, on time management. School has gotten be really stressful at times due to the high amounts of work I receive. I know that school is important and when I get on my computer for schoolwork, the majority of times I get side-tracked to your website probably for…
Read MoreI don’t know why I hide what I’m doing from my older brother
Question: Have you ever felt uncomfortable with someone who isn’t a devoted Christian or not a believer at all? This happens to me many times with my brother. Whenever someone tries to correct him, he immediately gets mad and defensive. He says he believes in God, but really he’s not convinced. He’s involved in fornication,…
Read MoreWhat do I do? The girl I got pregnant wants me to marry her
Question: I had a girl I loved so much. I visited her parents and relatives and visited mine too. We agreed to marry, but before the marriage, it was found out that I had impregnated her. I left her silently and married another girl. I did this because I am a church officer. I was…
Read MoreI am glad to find a church that is not into entertaining people to get them in the door!
Question: Just found your site. Well done. I am glad to find a church that is not into entertaining people to get them in the door! To bad you are not close enough to attend. How about some audio and video of your teachings and sermons? Answer: Look under Audio for audio lessons. We aren’t…
Read MoreYour website has been a tremendous help to my personal life and to the congregation here
Question: I wish to express my utmost gratitude to you. Your publication on your website has so far been of tremendous help to my personal life and the congregation. I had to take charge of lessons due to the ill health of the minister here for almost a year now. God bless as you continue…
Read MoreI’ve been involved in pornography and prostitution while attending church. Does that mean I need to be kicked out of the church?
Question: Hi, I’m writing because I don’t know what else to do. I grew up in a Christian household, always going to church. I would spend hours reading Bible and saying my prayers. I really felt God and all my skin on my face would grow tight. But when I reached my teens, I was…
Read MoreDid I cheat on my boyfriend when I had sex with two guys while drunk?
Question: I am currently engaged to the most wonderful man I have ever met. We do have a rough history, but I’m worried I may have ruined our future. We originally dated for a couple of months a few years ago but ended because I had confessed to him about seeing my ex whom I…
Read MoreI can’t settle on who I want to marry
Question: Thank you so much for creating this platform, God bless you. I graduated from college a few years ago. I have tried to work in some organizations, but yet to be fulfilled. Presently, I am still looking for a good job to sustain my living. I am the firstborn of my family. I have…
Read MoreI know I’m heading to hell, but maybe when I’m 21 I’ll pray to God
Question: To tell you the truth, I’m probably going to hell. Not that I follow Lucifer or any other entity, it is just that, well, I don’t know. I just read your article about sins and all. Some of the stuff you said I can relate to (and I’m not talking about the positive stuff…
Read MoreI keep repeating the same sexual sins. How do I stop?
Question: Dear minister, I just want to thank those involved in this work at the La Vista congregation. I am a new Christian and am relieved to be able to find many answers through your website. I do, however, come to you with a heavy heart right now. I have some sexual immorality in my…
Read MoreHow can I care for my mother without involving my father?
Question: Hello, I am in my twenties. My mother and father are in their fifties. My mother has worked very hard all her life and deserves that I take care of her finances for retirement. She has never owned a home. Presently, my parents rent a townhome. I want to start my financial planning and…
Read MoreHow do I stop being so involved in my friend’s sinful life?
Question: Here’s the background story: A year ago my friend, whom I’m very close to, dated someone who wasn’t mature enough for a relationship, but she still went out with him. She gave her all to him (including sex), and three months later they broke up. Ever since then they have been messing around, and…
Read MoreWhat can I do for my daughter who fears she might have done something wrong?
Question: My daughter was recently baptized. Since then, she has been sad and crying every day, feeling so guilty and questioning her every decision or thought or word out of her mouth as to whether it is sin. She knows even just one small sin, even a little lie, can keep her from heaven if…
Read MoreShould I marry the girl I’ve been having sex with?
Question: God bless you, I am struggling with a decision. I have a girlfriend whom I have been with three years already. She is a very nice girl, her parents have raised her very well. She is respectful, not selfish, very polite, and not sloppy in terms of doing what a young 21 year old…
Read MoreIs salvation is a state or process?
Question: Is salvation is a state or process? Because I do struggle with sin pretty badly! Answer: Salvation is a state. “Corresponding to that, baptism now saves you–not the removal of dirt from the flesh, but an appeal to God for a good conscience–through the resurrection of Jesus Christ” (I Peter 3:21). But it is…
Read MoreIs it wrong to quote the Bible in your prayer?
Question: Is it wrong to quote the Bible in your prayer? If yes, why, and if no, why? Thanks. Answer: Nowhere in the Bible does it forbid one to quote Bible passages in prayer. As long as your prayers are sincere, humble, with faithfulness, fervent, watchful, praising, and thankful, quoting Scripture is not inappropriate. As…
Read MoreShould we wait until after we finished school to get married?
Question: Hello, I am a 21-year-old college student, and currently about five months pregnant. I am not married to the father, but we are engaged and have been together a little under two years. My parents know (I still live with them) and although my mother is not a Christian, my father, my brothers and…
Read MoreI love my girlfriend, but she won’t stop talking to her prior boyfriend who is also her cousin
Question: My girlfriend and I are in a strong relationship for about an year or so. I love her so much and she loves me. But there is a little problem that’s growing bigger in my mind and occupies a large part of my mind. The problem is she has been with a couple of…
Read MoreCan God really forgive me?
Question: Please help me out. I committed immorality. Can God really forgive me? Can I ever enjoy His grace as a worker in church again? I really wish I had never committed this foolish act. Please talk to me because I feel so stupid about this. Please I am waiting to hear from you. Answer:…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my friends’ poor conversations?
Question: I have two friends who I talk to regularly. I associate with them on a weekly basis more or less. One of them believes in God though he is not “devoted” as one would say and the other is an atheist. Both of them know clearly that I am a Christian, and they don’t…
Read MoreHow can I get excited about being a Christian again?
Question: Hello, I have a question basically on how to desire God more and want to go on with the sanctification process, rather than being complacent and being that Sunday Christian. I’m hoping you can help me with some tips on how to want to desire to go on with my walk with The Lord.…
Read MoreWhy did God create such a vast universe?
Question: Before I discovered your site, one of the things I have been wondering is “Why did God create the Universe, besides Earth?” There are so many ideas that boggle me with this question that lead to confusion, and curiosity. Sometimes, I wonder “Why has God created the Universe that is full of both wonder…
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