Is it wrong to marry a non-virgin woman?

Question: My girlfriend is in her mid-twenties. She has a very good heart and she is very beautiful both inside and out. She lost her mother at the age of 8 and was brought up by her grandparents. She had two previous affairs before me. Both of the affairs ended with her being the innocent…

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How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?

Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…

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I have had guilt since I let an escort do oral sex on me

Question: Hello, The other day I spent the night with an escort but did not have sex. I am still a virgin in my 30’s. I did, however, receive protected oral sex for several minutes. Since then I have had immense guilt over it. I have had depression since I was a teenager and have…

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What exactly is sodomy?

Question: What exactly is sodomy? My understanding is that it is oral sex with either the same sex or between man and wife, but I have had many arguments with other people who say oral sex is OK between married people. This is such an embarrassing topic, but I really want to hear your opinion.…

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Your website kept me from sinning

Question: I was searching on Google and found this website. I was scared that if I did something with oral sex or that other touching stuff if I would be committing a sin. Your website gave the answer and stopped me from planning or doing that stuff before marriage. So thank you for answering my…

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Am I still a virgin after giving oral sex?

Question: I had oral sex twice, but both times it wasn’t sexual at all. My intention wasn’t to please him. I panicked and did it. And being that I was sexually abused a lot of things cause me to panic, but I should have never put myself in that situation knowing I was weak. Am…

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Can you get pregnant from oral sex?

Question: About a week ago I was fooling around with this boy and I gave him oral sex and swallowed his ejaculation, then we kissed and he gave me oral sex. Is there a possibility that his sperm could have traveled from my mouth to his and then into my vagina? Could I be pregnant?…

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Cunnilingus is injurious to health!

Question: Cunnilingus is injurious to health! Answer: It would be more proper to state that oral sex, whether done to a woman (cunnilingus) or done to a man (fellatio) can be injurious to health. All acts of sex between unmarried couples carry the risk of transmitting diseases between the partners because it is rare that…

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Is oral sex between a married couple a sin?

Question: Is oral sex between a married man and woman a sin and if so where can it be found in the Bible? Answer: The act of sex is to be restricted to married couples. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). Such acts…

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Is oral sex before marriage ok?

Question: Is oral sex before marriage ok? Answer: When people want to justify a behavior that deep down inside themselves they know they shouldn’t do, they will redefine terms that cast their actions into a better light. I’ve noticed in recent years that people, young people especially, are making the definition of sex more specific…

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Is anal or oral sex between a married couple a sin?

Question: Is anal and oral sex between a married couple a sin? And is my desire for it also a sin? Should I be angry at my wife’s unwillingness to participate in anal or oral sex? Answer: In describing the decay of the Gentile society, Paul pointed out that it began with a rejection of…

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What sexual acts should not be committed before marriage?

Question: What sexual acts should not be committed in a relationship before marriage? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). From the time that God created the world, His intention was that sex would be freely expressed within marriages between a husband and…

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