Should I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?

Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…

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How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?

Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…

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Can a couple, who committed fornication, manage to have a good marriage?

Question: Hello, First of all, thank you for your site. It seems to have good advice on many issues. I have read your article “Dealing with the Effects of Pre-Marital Sex.” I have a question relating to the article, but which is not covered directly in the article: How should a couple, who are planning…

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If I put my fingers in her private area, is that fornication?

Question: Hey, God bless. I have a question: My girl and I converted several weeks ago. Ever since then, we haven’t had sexual intercourse, but last night we started kissing and it go to a point where I had my hand on her private part. I sort of rubbed her for like 30 seconds and…

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Am I married because I did sexual acts with my girlfriend?

Question: I am 21 years old. I have been dating a girl my same age for about 6 months. We are both baptized Christians but have made serious mistakes. About a month ago, she gave me a hand-job. This happened three times but after the third time, I felt awful about it and have told…

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Is giving a hand job sinful?

Question: I’m a Christian girl and I have been dating a Christian boy for almost a year now. We kiss and hug but now he wants me to give him a hand job. I know that he loves me for me not because of my body, etc. I’m truly afraid that if I give him…

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Is giving a client a handjob as part of a massage a sin?

Question: I am a male massage therapist. I want to know if it is a sin to give a full body massage that includes massaging the penis and masturbating the client for full relaxation. Answer: Is this not just one aspect of homosexuality? But homosexuality is condemned in the Scriptures: “Do you not know that…

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Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it doesn’t lead to sex?

Question: Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it most definitely does not lead to sex? Answer: A “hand job” is slang for mutual masturbation; using the hand to stimulate the genitals. Saying that it does not lead to sex is a misnomer. It would be more accurate to state that in…

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Can a short handjob make you pregnant?

Question: Hello! My boyfriend and I were laying on the couch talking and just relaxing. I gave him a hand job for about 4 minutes; he did not ejaculate or pre-cum. I had my pants on also. Are there any odds of my getting pregnant? This was also four days after my period ended. I…

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