Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Should I leave my controlling husband?
Question: Before I married my husband he had set up a living trust which stated that all his earthly possessions at the time of his death will go to his family members other than his wife. As we got married I did not know about it. He then has asked me to quit my job…
Read MoreIs phone sex grounds for a divorce?
Question: I have recently divorced my husband for sexual immorality and abuse. He watched pornography, read Playboy magazines, is a nudist around other nude men and women, and also paid several times to have phone sex with real women. These actions have been going on for about ten years or more. I consider these actions to be grounds…
Read MoreCan a person remarry if their spouse commits adultery after the divorce?
Question: I want to ask you about two people who have divorced. I understand they are supposed to remain unmarried, and if one of them does get married later, he is living in adultery. Is the other person free to marry, since in God’s eyes they are still connected to their first spouse, have broken…
Read MoreIs pornography a just cause for divorce that allows remarriage?
Question: Hello, I have recently begun a wonderful relationship with a lady friend. Over the last four months or so we have developed a wonderful friendship which has recently blossomed into a budding romance. However, she has, within the last six months or so, filed for divorce from her husband due to abuse and a…
Read MoreMy husband left his third wife for reasons other than fornication. What do I do?
Question: My husband has been divorced. I read some of the topics about divorce and it really scares me. My husband was divorced three times. The first two divorces were filed because his ex-wives were cheating on him. But the third divorced is different. It was filed because it wasn’t working between his ex-third wife…
Read MoreWould I still have the right to remarry if I slept with another man before my divorce was final?
Question: Hi! I have a serious question: My husband walked out on me after 20 years of marriage. He has had numerous affairs. He has been gone for 2 years. I finally filed our divorce five months ago and it may be over within the month. For the past year, he has been living with…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband who is a drug addict?
Question: I found out three months after my husband and I got married in 2006 that he had a drug addiction. He would leave the house for days abandoning my daughter and me and would not answer his phone. Two weeks ago he moved out of state, leaving a note on the bed while I…
Read MoreI’m thinking of divorcing my wife because she is bipolar and a gambler. What do you think?
Question: I have an unusual problem. The wife and I got married and divorced seven years later. We got married again after another four years. I want a divorce. Besides, not ever having sex with my wife since we got married the second time, my wife is bipolar. But, more than that, she is also…
Read MoreWhat is meant by not being enslaved to a non-Christian?
Question: I’m confused about this verse about being enslaved to a non-Christian. Does not being enslaved mean you are no longer bond by the covenant of marriage or what? I’ve never study this verse and we’ll be going to be hitting the topic of marriage again soon, so do you have any advice on this…
Read MoreHow do I keep unity with my congregation that has a different view on divorce and remarriage?
Question: I have some questions regarding your response concerning unity and such. You said: “Unity for unity sake alone is not acceptable. Unity can only exist when everyone is living according the one and only standard — God’s word. Disunity happens because we don’t always live up to the standard, but while people are trying their best…
Read MoreI divorced my first wife and am married, but my wife says we are not married in God’s sight. Is that true?
Question: I have been married for twelve years. I have been married before my current wife and I divorce my first wife and ask God for forgiveness. My current wife told me I’m still married to my first wife in God’s eyes. I want to know if that’s true? My current wife wants a divorce.…
Read MoreWhat can I do? I am new to this country and my husband is seeing another woman
Question: My problem seems to be really big for me. My husband doesn’t care about our marriage, but I want it. He wants me to leave, but it is impossible for me to leave as I have been in this country for a few months and I don’t know my way around. I left my…
Read MoreShould I leave my unloving husband?
Question: I have been married for ten years now and I feel more like roommates than husband and wife. The problem is that my husband is not an affectionate person, never really has been. I just kept thinking he would change. The only time I get any contact from my husband is when we are…
Read MoreI’m finding myself attracted to a woman who is undergoing a divorce and I know the situation isn’t right. What do I do?
Question: God teaches us lessons in many ways. The new one He is teaching me is when I stand on something I need to be innocent in the situation myself. Such as the situation with the people who are married and living with someone other than their husband or wife. Recently I have been tempted…
Read MoreAre you familiar with Jerry Bassett’s teaching on marriage, divorce, and remarriage?
Question: I was talking to a preacher and he told me several things I had never heard before regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage. I would like to go into detail about this, but I am still studying what he told me. But I would like to ask you a question in relation to this. I…
Read MoreI disagree with some at my congregation about divorce and remarriage, so how can I worship with them?
Question: I have a question regarding church issues. Some members, in the church I am part of, have what I believe to be an unscriptural view on marriage, divorce, and remarriage. Unless I am misunderstanding what one of the elders I talked to about this said: They believe people can be remarried, even if they…
Read MoreWhy did God require the Israelites to leave their non-Jewish spouses?
Question: Could you explain why Moses gave the certificate of divorce? What I mean to say is when was it that God’s people were required to leave their non-Jewish spouses? What were the reasons for this? I am looking to use it for an example of commitment and covenants, such as marriage. Even if you…
Read MoreDoes divorce disqualify a man from being an elder?
Question: Does divorce disqualify a man from being an elder? Is adultery covenant-breaking? Answer: Adultery does break the covenant or “law” between a man and a woman. “Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the law), that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives?…
Read MoreDoes fornication include adultery, or are people only looking for another way out of marriage?
Question: I emailed you before regarding marriage and divorce and remarriage. I must admit I emailed hastily before reading your entire view on this. After reading more, I agree with most of what you said on this highly debated topic of the Bible. As a new Christian and one that is going through a very…
Read MoreIf a husband commits adultery after his wife divorces him, can she remarry?
Question: My sister has decided to leave her physically abusive, alcoholic husband. She doesn’t have plans to divorce him and is hoping that eventually, he’ll realize he needs help. She knows what a scriptural divorce is and that this does not constitute remarriage. I don’t think he will ever change, but it would not surprise…
Read MoreIf a person is in an adulterous relationship, must they leave their partner and children?
Question: If a person marries a person who had been divorced but not for a scriptural reason though he presented himself as having a scriptural reason for divorce and so they marry. Then later, the innocent party finds out that the other party did not, in fact, have a scriptural reason for divorce. What then?…
Read MoreIf, after being divorced, a person found out that his spouse was married to another at an earlier time, is he free to remarry?
Question: I have a question regarding divorce. If a person marries another knowing the person has been married before but understood this person was divorced scripturally from the first marriage. Years later, trouble begins and one spouse files for divorce. Therefore, leaving the one spouse not free to marry again since there was no adultery…
Read MoreWhat do you think about this divorce situation I ran into in Chile?
Question: I got an interesting question: In Chile divorce was illegal until a year ago or so. Well, divorce was allowed in Chile, but you had to have two witnesses say they saw the person in adultery. There’s a couple in the church who, about 20 years back, each cheated on respective spouses with their…
Read MoreI’m going to divorce my wife even though she doesn’t want it. What do you think?
Question: From the husband: It has been almost 6 months since the time I first disclosed to you my intention of filing for a divorce from my wife of almost 5 years. Since then we have been through more drama, as well as her even sending you a question of her own. After much prayer…
Read MoreIf the man I committed adultery with is getting divorced, can I marry him?
Question: I have committed adultery with a married man and now their marriage is breaking. This man and I have realized our mistakes and we ask pardon from God daily. But he is getting divorced. Is it right for me to marry him? Would I be committing adultery again? Answer: If he is being divorced…
Read MoreDoes Christ’s law about divorce and remarriage apply to non-Christians?
Question: I met a lady who is not a Christian (or proclaims to be a denominational Christian) and she has been divorced for a while (not by the approved way of Christ). If she became a true Christian and remarried, would she still be guilty of living in sin or does the Bible refer to…
Read MoreMy wife divorced me after getting involved in a charismatic group. What do I do now?
Question: I’m not sure really how to express all that I’m feeling or even the doubts that I do have. First, I would like to ask a question: I’ve seen your essays on the “modern” tongues, and, to be honest, I agree completely with you. I’m divorced, now for 2 1/2 years. It all came…
Read MoreIs it right for my wife to live apart without divorcing me?
Question: I was reading your article regarding if divorce is a sin. I have been studying this and other areas of sin and forgiveness, and I have a question to present. I have a personal interest in this topic as my Christian wife has left (abandoned) our marriage union and refuses to live together several…
Read MoreHealing Sick Marriages
by Allen Dvorak via Gospel Power, Vol. 14, No. 33, Aug. 19, 2007 Any marriage which lasts for very long will experience some rough times. If the physical attraction which dominates the engagement period and the beginning of marriage for many couples is not accompanied by an abiding love, the relationship is on shaky ground.…
Read MoreIs it a sin to have sex with my ex-husband?
Question: Is it a sin if you are having intercourse with your ex-husband? The reason for divorce is adultery. He has a girlfriend but denies it. He is a born again Christian. I still love him but he never speaks about making up, we only have intercourse. Is this biblically wrong? Answer: “Marriage is honorable…
Read MoreShould I divorce my husband over something that happened twelve years ago?
Question: Twelve and a half years ago my husband was nearly arrested for having sex with another man in a public bathroom. At that time I also discovered he has a serious pornography addiction. He attended counseling for about six months and when the therapist moved he discontinued therapy. I believed he was repentant at…
Read MoreIs Desertion a Ground for Remarriage?
by Johnny Stringer Guardian of Truth XXIX: 5, pp. 137, 141, March 7, 1985 Jesus taught that marriage is permanent. In keeping with God’s original intent regarding marriage, He prohibited divorce and stated that all second marriages of divorced persons are adulterous (Matthew 19:3-9; 5:32; Luke 16:18). He made only one exception to this rule:…
Read MoreAm I supposed to try to convince my husband to stay with me?
Question: We have been married for close to 20 years and my husband informed me around our second year that he married me mainly because I was pregnant. Ever since then his relationship with me has been based around the family and not us as a couple. The other day he announced to me that…
Read MoreShould I reconcile with my ex-husband who is addicted to marijuana?
Question: Should I reconcile with my ex-husband although he has issues with smoking pot? I divorced him over three years ago and I discovered biblically I was wrong because it was not for adultery. He since then continues to smoke but seems to have changed in other areas. I despise the fact that he smokes…
Read MoreWhat is the status of a person who married a person who had no right to marry, but later divorced that person?
Question: If someone has been scripturally divorced, but her previous spouse was not eligible for marriage because of a previous marriage. What is the status of that person? Answer: When a person’s marriage ends in divorce for some reason other than fornication, or if the marriage ended in divorce because of fornication and that person…
Read MoreShould I divorce to get peace back into my life?
Question: I am currently the minister of a congregation. I am married and my marriage is on the rocks. I often have thoughts of divorcing my wife, but I know that it would have a huge effect on all those whom I have baptized and help lead to Christ. My wife is no longer attractive…
Read MoreCan a person remarry if they divorced for more reasons than just fornication?
Question: Can this person remarry? Her husband committed adultery, was addicted to drugs and became violent. She said the last straw was when he tried to catch their porch on fire and threatened to divorce her and take the kids. She said because of this threat, the adultery, and the drugs, she chose to divorce…
Read MoreIf a couple in their second marriage has children, can the preacher make them get a divorce?
Question: If a man has two children from a previous marriage and marries a woman who has children from a previous marriage and they have two children in their marriage and the man later becomes a member of the church and several months later his wife becomes a member, does a preacher have the right…
Read MoreIf I divorce, do I lose my salvation?
Question: I am in need of some spiritual advice. I have been married for almost 20 years, and am now in my third round of marriage counseling. I keep hearing, the very point being forcefully made, from various ministries, about how wrong divorce is and that I cannot even think it. Yet I live in…
Read MoreIf God makes them one, how can there be divorce for any reason?
Question: The one thing that I noticed was that you said that there are biblical grounds for remarriage due to an unfaithful spouse. This, however, is not true from my understanding. I do see where a widow or the death of one spouse gives a biblical grounding for remarriage. But nowhere does it give any…
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