I’m thinking of divorcing my wife because she is bipolar and a gambler. What do you think?

Question:

I have an unusual problem.  The wife and I got married and divorced seven years later.  We got married again after another four years.  I want a divorce.  Besides, not ever having sex with my wife since we got married the second time, my wife is bipolar.  But, more than that, she is also a gambling addict.  I know no one is perfect, but I see my life being unfulfilled by this marriage.  Normally, I could wait it out and see if she ever comes around toward close to normal, but I am beginning to see her as a lost cause.  Two years ago, we actually decided we had to quit living together, but at the same time, I really didn't want a divorce because I didn't want to be so free that I could make another mistake and end up in another unfulfilled marriage.  So we have been seeing each other on the weekends in a platonic relationship.  We go to church, but as far as any sex goes, that's the furthest thing from her mind.

The problem is, today, I find myself attracted to another woman.  I think when my wife saw my attraction she decided to become very close and friendly with this woman so as to make any relationship impossible.  Now, I am ready to divorce my wife for doing such a thing.  And, of course, the woman to whom I am attracted would not be any sort of Christian if she were to want me when I am still married.  She did talk to me about getting a divorce, but now she's changed even that, to not wanting to get married at all but to be just friends.  Perhaps she is right, but I feel like my wife instigated this separation from this woman.  I have to admit, it was partly my fault for not getting a divorce two years ago, but I have also explained this to this beautiful Christian woman.  She still will now only be my friend and even has told me she'd never married me.  Now, I am very upset and feel like I will never have a companion who will love me.  Oh, sure, I can find another woman, but I really have no desire to find another one.  I have already found one.  Oh, by the way, this woman to whom I am attracted to, we have not had any relations at all.  I have respected her person, and I would do so whether I am married to her or not.  What bothers me is that she was willing to marry me at one point.  Now, it's a different story.  The reason I ever got involved with this woman in the first place was because of my wife's secretly going over to the casino to spend money in those one-armed bandits.  I would call my wife and she would have her cell-phone turned off.  I would call this other lady because my wife would be at her apartment at times because they are friends.  Only she wouldn't be there.  She would then ask me if I wanted to go out and eat at a local restaurant.  We did that several times, and at other times when my wife was with me, we would include her and go out to eat, the three of us.  I just feel betrayed somehow.

I've prayed about the whole thing and I still feel uncomfortable about the position I find myself in.  I never wanted a wife and an almost girlfriend.  I only wanted to have a good relationship with a wife.  I guess I am going to get that divorce after all.