Am I married in the eyes of God?

Question: When I met my husband, he was going through a divorce from his former wife. She had been unfaithful. He moved out and the other man moved in with her. Before I met him, he had already begun the divorce papers. Because of his first wife’s unfaithfulness, I understand he had a right to…

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Does God hate all adulterers and fornicators?

Question: Does God hate all adulterers and fornicators? Are they all destined to burn for all eternity in the fires of Hell? Answer: Your question is misleading in that it doesn’t consider the possibility of sinners leaving their sins behind. We are warned, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and…

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The man I am seeing is married. How do I fix this problem?

Question: What am I to do? I came out of a bad relationship and began seeing someone at work who is in fact married. Co-workers always said he had always said he’s going to find the right woman for himself. He had another girlfriend who worked there before for probably seven years. She was married…

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Can I remarry even though I also committed adultery?

Question: I have been separated from my husband for five years now. During that time I kept asking him for us to work our marriage out. But he has been very reluctant. Since our separation, he was seeing another woman and had a child with her that he has been hiding from me for a…

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Is divorce still valid for adultery?

Question: My wife admitted to committing adultery. I still had feelings for her, especially her soul. After an argument one evening, I tried to comfort her. We had intercourse, but then on the next two occasions, it was as if he was in bed with us. I haven’t been able to get it off my…

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Thou Shalt Not …

Text: Romans 13:8-10   I.         In continuing our series on understanding the Ten Commandments, I would like for us to focus our attention on the commands which begin “You shall not …” – Exodus 20:13-17             A.        The repeating of a phrase, in this case “you shall not”, causes one to pay attention to the words. It sets…

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Should a repeated adulterer be dismissed from the ministry?

Question: I would like to know what God’s view is on this matter. A pastor in our town who is over a church is committing adultery over and over again. The church keeps taking him from the pulpit but after awhile lets him come back to the pulpit. My opinion this is the blind leading…

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Did I have the right to remarry?

Question: When God forgives you does he wipe your slate clean? Several years ago I suspected my husband of adultery. His boss told me he had information about the situation and we agreed to meet at his house at lunch to discuss it. As we talked, I became emotional and he tried to comfort me.…

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What should I do with my husband who is living in adultery?

Question: What does it means if you get a Bible scripture of Ezekiel 40?  How is it related to my problem? I’m born-again and married, but my husband is staying with another woman. What should I do in this matter?  I found out last year that he was sleeping around with my born-again sister in…

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Notes on Adultery

Matthew 19:9 Matthew 19:18 Mark 10:11-12 Mark 10:19 Luke 16:18 Luke 18:20 Romans 13:9 I Corinthians 6:9 Galatians 5:19 Hebrews 13:4 James 4:4

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Notes on the Ten Commandments

“I am the LORD your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. You shall have no other gods before Me.” Repeated in the New Testament: Matthew 4:10; Acts 17:16; Romans 1:25; I Corinthians 8:4-6; Philippians 3:19; Colossians 2:18; Revelation 19:10; 22:9 “You shall not make for…

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What to do when a church leader preys on members

Question: Your words of wisdom have been very healing.  Thank you. I need to give some contextual information with regards to my ex-boyfriend. I met him at my church.  I was in a program called Beyond Divorce, and he was my small group leader as well as the organizer of this entire program.  In my…

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How do I repair a damaged marriage?

Question: This is the third time I have written to you and I thank you for your previous replies, they have helped me a lot. I have a “What should I do now?” question. My wife and I have had a terrible year. Last year around this time I quit my job and we started to…

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Should I divorce my unfaithful wife?

Question: My wife had three children out of wedlock before we got married and has just informed me that she had sex with someone else during our marriage. I think I have the right to divorce, but my question is: what should I do? It appears to me that she cannot be faithful. Answer: “He…

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Should I leave this marriage?

Question: My wife had three children before we met and has now had an affair. Is she unmarriageable and should I leave this marriage? Answer: Unfortunately, there is insufficient information in this question for me to answer in regards to your personal situation. You did not mention whether your wife was married prior to your…

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Should I tell my husband about my adultery?

Question: I have been married for seven years. The first five years were wonderful. Then I started hanging out with an ungodly crowd, and I ashamed to say I cheated on my husband. I didn’t sleep with any men, but I did fool around with several. I confessed this to my husband and he forgave…

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How does adultery start?

Question: How does adultery start? In what way then is it looked upon as adultery Answer: James describes the steps leading to death from sin as thus: “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each…

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Can adultery be forgiven? Should I tell my spouse?

Question: My husband and I separated because he committed adultery. A few months later I too committed adultery one time because I was stupid and lonely. I am closer to the Lord now and I knew it was and know it is wrong for what I did too. Will He forgive us? Can we still…

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Why Sex Outside of Marriage Is Wrong

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton In the United States, marriage is becoming increasingly rare. The 2000 U.S. Census found only 51% of all households are married couples, continuing a steady decline over the past several decades. Meanwhile, the number of unmarried couples living together has increased rapidly. In 2000, 5.4 million couples are living together without…

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