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Should I turn myself in because I had sex with a minor?
Question: First of all let me start by saying, your site is amazing. Your answers remain as biblical as possible and I do appreciate that. I read another question that someone else had that was very similar to the situation I am going through now, and reading your response really helped shed light. Nonetheless, I…
Read MoreWhat is the Christian’s new name?
Question: When we accepted Christ we were given a new name and identity. What is our now or name? Answer: The phrase “new name” is only stated three times in the Bible: “The Gentiles shall see your righteousness, And all kings your glory. You shall be called by a new name, Which the mouth of…
Read MoreI want to divorce my husband because I don’t find him sexually appealing
Question: I am a girl from India. Here 70% of the marriages are arranged by parents from the same caste and community. I am a person who listens to what my heart says. I am also a physical kind of person, which means I usually get attracted to smart and cute guys. Nature is also…
Read MoreDo I have to confess my sins before the church? I don’t want people to have more reasons to look down on me
Question: I am a born-again Christian, but I have had many problems since I was raised by different people from among my relatives (uncle, aunties, grandpa, etc). I find myself different from others in a bad way mentally and in behavior. This feeling continues to disturb me. It was about ten years ago that I…
Read MoreDo you have an answer key for your study on the Song of Solomon?
Question: Greetings Jeffrey! I’ve been reading and reviewing your lessons on Song of Solomon. It has been very interesting and educational. I was wondering if you had answers to your questions? Some answers are obvious, but not all. I appreciate so very much the work you do in the kingdom of Christ with this site! Answer:…
Read MoreAre there five doctrines of angels?
Question: I told someone in our Bible study recently that “eternal security” is a doctrine. She said no, that doctrines are doctrines of angels, about five or so in number. What do you think about this? Answer: Doctrine means “teachings.” “For I give you good doctrine: Do not forsake my law” (Proverbs 4:2). There is…
Read MoreMy congregation is so caught up in meals and activities that they have lost sight of teaching
Question: Hello, I have been a member of the church of Christ for almost 20 years. I now have my own family and have been highly discouraged to continue attending the congregation in our hometown. Lately, I have been noticing so many changes in the church. Many local congregations, as well as ours, host what…
Read MoreA preacher here is teaching that Jesus is not the Son of God but became the Son of God
Question: Christian greetings to you. How are you, bother? I am thankful to you for your ability to preach the word of God. I hope that you are able to give an answer to my question. In our place, a preacher started preaching that Jesus is not the son of God but he became the…
Read MoreThank you for helping me understand how easy it is to fall into sin without noticing
Question: I just want to thank you guys for helping me to understand how easy it is to fall to sin without noticing. I am a teen who was curious about a problem like this and similar situations. After reading through this page I now see and can relate to how sin and shameful acts…
Read MoreShould sex before marriage be encouraged in Christianity?
Question: Should sex before marriage be encouraged in Christianity? Answer: “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God” (I…
Read MoreI’ve squandered our money, hiding it from my husband, but now it is out in the open and I don’t know what to do.
Question: I have been lying to my husband about our finances pretty much ever since we got married. I have always had horrible money management, and he knows that but not to what extent. He is deployed and this is our first time apart for more than two months since we’ve been married, and I…
Read MoreAre yoga pants, bikinis, and short shorts immoral?
Question: Are yoga pants, bikinis, and short shorts immoral? Most women in my area wear these, even pastors’ wives, so it confuses me greatly because I feel sometimes like they’re immodest and that I should avert my eyes. Answer: They can be immoral. When clothing no longer hides a person’s nakedness, then it is wrong.…
Read MoreIs it OK to ask a girl for a date who is seeing someone else?
Question: Hi There was a discussion in which I’d like you to help out. Suppose one is interested in a certain lady who happens to be in a relationship with someone else. Is it OK to try to ‘displace’ the other gentleman? After all the two aren’t married, so technically she doesn’t ‘belong’ to him.…
Read MoreIf God hasn’t selected a day, why did Paul say a day was appointed for the second coming?
Question: I was reading “If Jesus is God, how come only the Father knows of the second coming?” because I wanted to know the answer to this question, but if the Father hasn’t chosen a day, what about this verse? Because he hath appointed a day, in the which he will judge the world in…
Read MoreI had an affair and became pregnant. My husband forgives and wants to keep the child, but I am so ashamed that I don’t think I can love her.
Question: I had an affair and became pregnant. I came clean with my husband, and he forgives me and wants to raise the baby as his own, which is wonderful. It’s me that’s having a terrible time with forgiving myself and accepting this child. I feel no bond whatsoever, and it’s all because of the…
Read MoreI broke my vow to God and gave into sexual immorality. What do I do to keep my vow?
Question: Good evening sir, I once made a vow to Jehovah that if He helped me keep my job, I will never give in to sexual immorality again. Well, I lost my job and I broke the vow. Is it that Jehovah did not hear me or He just wanted to punish me? I decided…
Read MoreWhat does a wife do when she finds condoms in her husband’s car?
Question: As a Christian what should you do in the following situation? What if a wife found condoms in her husband’s car, one used. She confronts him and asks, but he says they must be really really old because he hadn’t purchased condoms since 2011? But according to research that had been done, going by…
Read MoreThank you for putting the Song of Solomon studies on the Internet
Question: I have stumbled upon the Songs of Solomon studies. Thank you for putting them on the Internet. Answer: You’re welcome.
Read MoreHow do I handle marrying a Hindu?
Question: I am a Christian, baptized when I was 16 years old. I used to live with my parents and I never used to eat anything offered to idols or entered temples. Four years later I thought food won’t hurt us nor would going to temples hurt our faith in God. The only thing I…
Read MoreShould I leave a denomination that accepts homosexuality?
Question: Read your article about homosexuality in churches these days. I have tried to explain to people that when you accept Christ he says our old ways are in the past and we are new. But like you said people state I think they are born that way. Our church recently put a picture of…
Read MoreDo belief and confession mean that baptism is unnecessary?
Question: Hi, Thanks for your web site. It has been a God-send to folks like me who are relatively new in our walk with God through the Lord Jesus Christ. I have been trying to find a Bible-believing church to attend, but there are so many false teachings and divisions in the body of Christ today that…
Read MoreIs it wrong to scold someone? Do I rebuke every bad thing a person does? Does a little bit of immorality make a show bad?
Question: Hi Mr. Jeff, I really enjoy your website. Thank you for sharing it with others. I just wanted to ask you about three questions: The first question I had was: As followers of Christ, our speech and conduct is supposed to give grace to those who hear. Sometimes I’m confused as to if what…
Read MoreWould it be wrong for me to skip my mother’s funeral?
Question: I am having difficulties getting along with my sister, especially regarding our mom and her care. We just recently lost our father. My sister has been difficult in the past and is more controlling now. I now realize that it is best for my sanity if I take breaks away from her. I don’t…
Read MoreI feel so bad because I let a man touch me. Will God forgive me?
Question: I have a really difficult moment. I really need your help. I am 24 years old and I’m a Christian. I only had one boyfriend and with him, I had nothing more than a kiss, like a peck, and some holding hands and hugs. I was 16 years old at the time. After that,…
Read MoreShould I tell my friend’s wife that he has been unfaithful after he has repented of his sin?
Question: Hello sir, I hope that God is blessing you in what you do. I am writing you on the matter of infidelity. I am aware of a man who has been unfaithful to his significant other. This is not the first time that he has been so. The previous time which he was unfaithful…
Read MoreHow does a Muslim become a Christian?
Question: Dear Sir, I am a Muslim, but I am now a true believer in our Lord Jesus Christ. I want to complete the full life and journey, be a true honest Christian, and get born again, getting officially baptized. I would appreciate your support and advice. Answer: It would depend on where you are,…
Read MoreI want to stop committing fornication, but I’ve lost control
Question: I want to stop fornicating. I have always prayed that I want to get married to the man I would be dating for the first time, and I thank God for giving me that. I have been with this guy for eight years, but my problem is that at first, he wanted sex and…
Read MoreYour theology that we will be judged by works is false doctrine
Question: In regards to your website about predestination and the verse in Genesis, I believe your theology on how we will be judged by works is false doctrine. While the verse is true and stands, we will be judged by works, there is a deeper issue I believe you did not come to because of…
Read MoreMy ex-girlfriend visited me and we ended up having sex. How do I ask for forgiveness?
Question: I am a student and I was in a relationship with my girlfriend. We broke up because there was some cheating from her. Though we broke up, I decided to be friends with her. I knew that I still loved her, but I could not let go of the fact that she cheated, so…
Read MoreAfter accepting Christ, do you have to be baptized to get to the next level in heaven?
Question: After accepting Christ, do you have to be baptized to get to the next level in heaven? Answer: First, there is no mention of different levels in heaven in the Bible. There is some indication that what each person has in heaven may not be exactly the same. See: Are there degrees of rewards and…
Read MoreHow do I deal with erroneous comments on Facebook?
Question: On Facebook, I have friends who are religious but not scripturally correct in their teachings. They do post things that are correct at times but knowing they are in error, on the whole, I am always questioning myself as to whether I should respond when they comment, or just try and teach them that…
Read MoreI don’t know if my feelings were genuine when I received Christ
Question: You may not know me, but I have seen what you wrote and you seem wise. I ask that you give me a genuine answer. Here goes pouring out my heart’s doubts: I am not sure that I have received Christ. I don’t know if my feeling was genuine and God was touching me,…
Read MoreI can’t stop harming myself
Question: Hello, I’ve been self-harming (cutting myself) since I was 11. I am now 17. That’s a long time and I still keep doing it. Nothing seems to stop me. My depression even got bad to the point that I’ve attempted suicide multiple times. I am now on medications for bipolar disorder and depression, but…
Read MoreI can’t find anyone to marry
Question: Dear Minister, I’ve prayed, I’ve fasted, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone at church, so I need some help. I’m 31, I’m single and I have no children. I’m so frustrated because everyone I know is in relationships or they have kids. My unsaved…
Read MoreI’ve returned to a life of sin and I feel so depressed
Question: I am a 34-year-old male. I am married and have one son. I am living abroad and alone for my work. I have been living in sexual sins and not living a holy life for many years, even before my marriage and after. My spiritual life was bad most of my life. But two…
Read MoreHow do I deal with the fact that my daughters were molested by a leading member of the church?
Question: Hi there, I have a complex issue that I am trying to sort through biblically and do right by my family, others, and the law. Two of my daughters have been sexually interfered with by a “leader” of the local church here. The first time was with my oldest daughter on a couple of…
Read MoreI love a Muslim man, but we won’t be seeing each other much. What do you think?
Question: Hi, I’m 20 years old and, though baptized as a Catholic and brought up as one. I have never really practiced it. Because of problems and issues while growing up, I lost faith and resented God. But that has changed and though not baptized as a Christian, I would like to consider myself as…
Read MoreWill God punish me for my fornication?
Question: I’ve recently committed an act of fornication. I disobeyed my morals severely. I’ve prayed to God, admitted my sins, in hope for His forgiveness and restoration of faith within me. I feel used and worthless and certainly unworthy of God’s love and of marriage in the future. I always hoped to save myself for…
Read MoreHow do I help my mother who is being abused by my father?
Question: Hello sir, I am 23 and recently finished my schooling. My dad denies Christ, but my mom is a believer. My dad is short-tempered. From the beginning, my mom was treated by him as a servant. He used to beat her, use abusive words over her — sometimes in front of other people, too.…
Read MoreIs it wrong to want emotional intimacy with another?
Question: Hi Jeff, I just wanted to ask you a question: Is it wrong to want emotional intimacy from someone? Our mindsets are to be about giving to others, so is it considered selfish or self-serving if you want to hear this person’s thoughts and feelings, or their perspective on life? You want to listen…
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