Is it a sin to view naked girls?

Question: Is it a sin to view naked girls? Not in a pornographic way, but as in like just girls without their clothes on. Answer: Much depends on the purpose for which the viewing takes place. If it was a sin to see someone naked (boy or girl), then parents would have a hard time…

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What does the Bible say about having a fetish?

Question: I have a spanking fetish I’m a 24-year-old male that has a spanking fetish. How do I stop myself? What do the Scriptures say about them? Is it normal to have a spanking fetish? Answer: It is interesting that you used the word fetish. The proper definition of a fetish is: “An inanimate object…

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When is it appropriate to start kissing?

Question: When is an appropriate age to start kissing from a biblical standpoint or is there one? Answer: Most people start at infancy. Okay, okay, I know that isn’t what you meant, but it does point out that it isn’t the kiss that is critical to the answer, but the intent of the kiss. The…

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What is pornography’s draw?

Question: I don’t know if this was already explained, but why are so many people addicted to pornography? More and more people are engaging in this kind of activities. And the viewers get younger and younger. I highly doubt that there are any benefits of pornography. But why? It’s really a sin to do such…

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Is reading sexually explicit romance novels wrong?

Question: I really have a great deal of respect for your opinion just based on what I have read on your web site. I would like to get your opinion on how to handle a situation with a couple where I preach if you have time. The husband tells me that his wife spends a…

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What do I do about a husband that sinned at a bachelor’s party?

Question: What do you do when alcohol and a fully nude strip club at a bachelor party tempted your Christian husband and he gives in to both temptations? Not only was he a visitor at this club, but he and the other three gentlemen had a little personal dance as well. Being the wife of…

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How do you avoid sexual immorality?

Question: What ways are there to prevent oneself from going into sexual immorality? I have masturbated before and afterward, I repented. I realized that it’s very wrong to do so. So now I want to avoid it, but like you said before that it can become a hard habit to break. Thanks to the Lord…

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Is foreplay wrong if it doesn’t lead to sex?

Question: I’m a 22 male and I have been searching for an answer on this site. Sex is not a problem before marriage for me, but what about foreplay if you are certain it will not lead to sex? It has never been a problem to stop before thinking about sex, but is foreplay really…

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The Nature of Sin, Temptation, and Lust

I.         The pathway to death – James 1:13-16 (handout)             A.        Desire                         1.         Each of us is born with a normal, natural set of desires.                         2.         Those desires are the consequences of the operation of our bodies.                                     a.         What is the purpose of thirst? Hunger?                                     b.         Does sexual desire have a purpose?             B.        Temptation                         1.         Satan tries to place us in situations where it…

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Are same-sex relationships wrong if they are non-sexual?

Question: Does it make any difference at all if the girl – girl or boy -boy relationships are not sexual? What I am trying to ask is would being infatuated or “falling in love” with someone of the same sex be a sin? Answer: Oh, the mess our over-sexualized world has made of relationships between…

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What is Wrong with Mixed Swimming?

Text: Ephesians 4:17-24   I.        Let’s first define the issue.                         1.         It is not whether boys and girls can participate in the same activity.                                     a.         There are plenty of sports and other activities where both men and women participate.                                     b.         Often, as adolescence is reached, boys and girls will separate, mostly because men and women have different levels of…

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How do we distinguish between attraction and lust?

Question: Having read your article, “Is masturbation unacceptable?” I wish to commend you for tackling a subject many avoid. Sunday night I finished a series of lessons on human sexuality, so I feel we have this in common. I have a question that might help shed some light on this subject. Matthew 5:28 says,  “But I say to…

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Does pornography change a person?

Question: My ex-boyfriend told me when I shared with him that it hurt my feelings he was using pornography, “Well, good riddance to a woman like that!  Everybody does it!  Guys use it to get off.”  He would also say things like, “It took me two years to get over Asian skin.” I got out…

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What is the spiritual impact of online pornography?

Question: What is the spiritual impact of online pornography?  I dated a man who used it a lot and even though we are no longer dating, I feel icky about his choice to use this. Answer: Pornography’s impact is the same, whether we discuss pornography distributed over the Internet or found in “adult” stores or…

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What sexual acts should not be committed before marriage?

Question: What sexual acts should not be committed in a relationship before marriage? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). From the time that God created the world, His intention was that sex would be freely expressed within marriages between a husband and…

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Is it okay for boys and girls to swim together?

Question: My friend wants to know if it is ok to go swimming where there are boys. I asked Daddy and he says he did not think that was right, and I do not do that. I told my friend, but she still does. Answer: To answer your question, we need to define exactly what…

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How does adultery start?

Question: How does adultery start? In what way then is it looked upon as adultery Answer: James describes the steps leading to death from sin as thus: “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each…

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A Look at Pornography

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Pornography: Material that deals with sex in a rude or offensive manner. Material designed to shock the viewer in how sex is depicted. Material that is sexually explicit and intended to arouse sexual passion. The depiction of sex has become increasingly common in our society. It is rare to find a…

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Dancing in the Bible

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton We will divide the discussion of dancing in the Bible into two sections. The first section will include those Scriptures where dancing is spoken of in a favorable setting. The second section is where dancing is associated with wickedness. We will note the things that are similar within each section and…

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