Can a girl get pregnant before her first period?

Question: Hi! I was wondering if it is possible for a girl to become pregnant before menarche (before she has her first period). My friend and I were fooling around and I fingered her, but I am curious. I realized that she has really minimal pubic hair and underarm hair. What are the symptoms of…

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If he didn’t go all the way, could I still get pregnant?

Question: My boyfriend and I were about to have sex for the first time, but I changed my mind because I realized I wasn’t ready and plus he wasn’t wearing a condom! Since it was my first time and because it hurt too much he didn’t really go all the way, is there still a…

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Should I marry the father of my son?

Question: I am 21  years old and I have a 4-year-old son out of wedlock. I have a relationship with God for about a year, but I am confused. His father wants to be in our lives. We want to get married and move in together, but he is not a Christian. I love him…

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Any ideas what is wrong with me?

Question: I am a 17 years old male and I am just becoming sexually active. I’m noticing a lot of things.  For one, I have constant urges to pee all of the time.  The number becomes unbearable sometimes.  I have constant bladder pains, and my sexual time only lasts for a minute or two.  After…

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Is it a sin to have a baby out of wedlock?

Question: Is it a sin to have a baby out of wedlock? Answer: It is a sin to have sex outside of marriage (Hebrews 13:4). It is called “fornication” in the Bible, though some translations use the phrase “sexual immorality” or just plain “morality” for the same Greek word. The sin exists whether a child…

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The only reason polygamy is condemned is because the church condemns it.

Question: I believe that every word in Scripture is there for a reason. I don’t think God plays around with the words in Scripture unless there’s a good reason to do so. With that said, have you ever wondered why Matthew 19 is the only quotation of Jesus that includes an exception in his teachings…

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If a man gets a woman pregnant, must they marry?

Question: A man in the congregation where I preach committed fornication with a woman who is a “pastor” in a denomination. She became pregnant. Should he marry her, even if he does not love her? Answer: First, let us make clear that this pregnancy is a distracting issue. What should or should not happen is…

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How do you avoid sexual immorality?

Question: What ways are there to prevent oneself from going into sexual immorality? I have masturbated before and afterward, I repented. I realized that it’s very wrong to do so. So now I want to avoid it, but like you said before that it can become a hard habit to break. Thanks to the Lord…

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My boyfriend has been seeing prostitutes. What should I do?

Question: My boyfriend, unbeknownst to me, went to the Philippines, met and slept with several prostitutes and is bringing one to the U.S. I am so hurt by this and I do not understand his behavior. Thank you for helping me. He keeps her picture by his bed but hides it when I am there.…

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Could I have gotten her pregnant?

Question: My girl and I had sex on January 1st this year. I used protection. She had a period on the 25 of January; it was on time and everything. Her period lasted like 5 or 6 days like normal. Her next period was supposed to start March 1st or something and she says she is late. Now…

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Living Together Before Marriage

by Ray Fowler Here are some statistics on living together before marriage from Michael McManus, the president of Marriage Savers. Statistically speaking, living together is not a trial of marriage, but rather a training for divorce. The number of unmarried couples living together soared 12-fold from 430,000 in 1960 to 5.4 million in 2005. More…

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Is oral sex before marriage ok?

Question: Is oral sex before marriage ok? Answer: When people want to justify a behavior that deep down inside themselves they know they shouldn’t do, they will redefine terms that cast their actions into a better light. I’ve noticed in recent years that people, young people especially, are making the definition of sex more specific…

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Is living together before marriage a sin?

Question: Is living together before marriage a sin? Answer: See: No Longer “Living In Sin” Waiting for the Proper Time Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong If these don’t manage to give a satisfactory answer, let me know what further questions you have and I will try to address them.

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Where does the Bible talk about the unmarried living together?

Question: Where is the Scripture that talks about living together if unmarried? Answer: Generally the phrase “living together” is a polite way of saying that two people are sharing the same bed in the same home, thus engaged in sex, though unmarried. In the Greek, the word for this is pornos, which means engaging in sex…

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No Longer “Living in Sin”

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Sometimes you find interesting coincidences in the paper. One article brings up a question and another, unrelated one, supplies the answer. Recently I spotted an article in the June 7, 1995 edition of the Omaha World-Herald that shows the birthrate of children born to unwed mothers has increased 54 percent from…

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Coed Slumber Parties?

by George Hutto That’s the title of a recent article in the teen section of the local paper, (Times Daily, Florence, AL, June 1, 2005, p. 6e). “Innocent fun or danger zone?” is the subtitle. The simple asking of the question is disturbing. In this article the author, Helena Ollviero from Cox News Service quotes…

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What should a teenager do to guard against pride?

Question: The Bible tells us that “Pride comes before destruction.” What are the things a teenager should guard against in order to be respectful and humble? Answer: “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18). The problem of pride is not unique to teenagers. All people struggle with it since…

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What if a man feels he cannot wait to have sex?

Question: What if a man cannot wait? What if a man really wants to have sex with a girl? What should the man do? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have…

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Is foreplay wrong if it doesn’t lead to sex?

Question: I’m a 22 male and I have been searching for an answer on this site. Sex is not a problem before marriage for me, but what about foreplay if you are certain it will not lead to sex? It has never been a problem to stop before thinking about sex, but is foreplay really…

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Can I get pregnant while having a period?

Question: I am in my period. My boyfriend let his sperm inside of me. He said if I’m in my period, I won’t get pregnant. Can I get pregnant or not? Answer: Anytime a couple engages in sex, there is a possibility of pregnancy. After all, one of the purposes of sex is to produce…

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Why isn’t more time spent on spreading the golden rule?

Question: Yes, I did generalize your views when I inferred that the church goes after sins of the “flesh” and homophobic is one of the words I used to describe your stance. After reading your response it turned out that I was right in your case. It seems that the church (I know that’s a…

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Could I get pregnant from spilled semen?

Question: As my boyfriend took out the condom he was using some of his sperm fell near my vagina. I washed my vagina with water and soap. Can I get pregnant? Please send me your answer as soon as possible. I am afraid. Thank you. Answer: I’m a bit curious. If you are afraid of…

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Is divorce only acknowledged when it is done for fornication?

Question: What do you think about this situation: Bob divorces Mary not for fornication (she gets fat, or ugly, or burns the cornbread). Bob and Mary have three children and she has always been a housewife with limited education. She begs Bob not to leave her, He leaves her and their children anyway. Two years…

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How do I get girls to have sex with me?

Question: How do I get girls to have sex with me? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they…

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How do you prevent teenagers from having pre-marital sex?

Question: How do you prevent teenagers from having pre-marital sex? Answer: “We have a little sister, and she has no breasts; what shall we do for our sister on the day when she is spoken for? If she is a wall, we will build on her a battlement of silver; but if she is a…

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Will I be sinning if I have sex with my girlfriend?

Question: Will I be sinning if I have sex with my girlfriend? Answer: In the Greek language of the New Testament is the word pornos. It refers to a person who has sex outside the bonds of marriage. It is most accurately translated as “fornicator” in English, but in some translations, the word is more vaguely…

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What sexual acts should not be committed before marriage?

Question: What sexual acts should not be committed in a relationship before marriage? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). From the time that God created the world, His intention was that sex would be freely expressed within marriages between a husband and…

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Why is sex a sin?

Question: Why is sex a sin? Answer: The short answer to your question is that sex is not a sin, but it can become a sin in certain situations. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). The Greek word koite is translated as “the bed” in…

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Is spousal rape grounds for divorce?

Question: Does spousal rape constitute fornication, or sexual immorality, thus giving grounds for divorce and remarriage? Answer: Some questions are difficult – not because we cannot clearly state the truth, but because the way the questions are worded cause you to make assumptions that may not be true. A classic example is “Are you still…

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Does spousal rape constitute fornication?

Question: Does spousal rape constitute fornication, or sexual immorality, thus giving grounds for divorce and remarriage? Answer: Some questions are difficult – not because we cannot clearly state the truth, but because the way the questions are worded cause you to make assumptions that may not be true. A classic example is “Are you still…

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What is wrong with pre-marital sex?

Question: What is wrong with pre-marital sex? If your spouse finds out that you are bad at sex after you are married, won’t your spouse leave you for someone else? Answer: Here lies a classic argument of “Let us do evil that good may come” (Romans 3:8). You want to prevent your future spouse from…

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Waiting for the Proper Time

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Few youngsters enjoy being told they must wait. When a thought enters their heads, they want to act on it right now. If they desire something, it must be in their possession right now. Any delay to a person who has not lived long appears to be impossibly long. Unfortunately, there…

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