Can I dance with my wife at home? Can I have naked pictures of my wife?

Question:

Good day sir.

May God continue to bless you for the good work you are doing. Please kindly help me out with these questions:

  1. As a Christian, is it wrong to ask my wife to send me naked photos of her when I am not nearby?
  2. I know that Christians do not use instruments in our worship and we don't dance. Now, can a Christian dance to music in his or her room,  outside the church, or at a funeral?

Answer:

It is easy to make rules and forget why those rules are made.

It is wrong for a man to lust after a woman he is not married to (Matthew 5:29). Thus, looking at naked pictures of various women is wrong. But a husband ought to desire his wife. "I am my beloved's, and his desire is for me. Come, my beloved, let us go out into the country, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us rise early and go to the vineyards; let us see whether the vine has budded and its blossoms have opened, and whether the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love" (Song of Solomon 7:10-12).

The problem that I see is that pictures have the unfortunate probability of being found. The Internet is not as secure as most people expect. Thus, what you think might be private between the two of you may become known to others.

Dancing is not wrong, but dances that simulate sexual moves or dances that are designed to arouse sexual passion in people are wrong for the same reason as we discussed in regards to Matthew 5:29. Once again, those reasons don't apply between a husband and wife, especially in the privacy of their own home. See Dancing in the Bible.

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