We just can’t agree about religion and the wedding is at the end of the year

Question:

Hello,

I am in a relationship. We are planning to get married. The greatest hurdle we have is that my boyfriend is Catholic. Though I was raised Catholic, I converted to a protestant church. He wants me to convert back to Catholicism for the children's sake, which I understand as we don't want to confuse them. And also because I know the doctrines taught, being raised Catholic and all. But I don't want to.

We talk about it, get to a deadlock, then postpone. We had agreed to have time apart as we prayed and sought God on it, but have resumed talking. We live in separate cities. We have agreed not to dwell on it until the end of the month. The wedding is scheduled to be at the end of the year. What do we do? How do we handle the issue?

Answer:

Personally, I would rather both of you focus on being Christians instead of being members of some denomination. See: We Are Simply Christians Without Being Members of Any Denomination, You Can be Too!

You two can't come to an agreement about a major issue and ignoring this isn't going to make it go away. Since you both don't want to change and you both agree that it is important for any children you might have, then the only obvious solution is to call it off start looking for someone who does agree with you about religion.

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