"I don't love my wife like I used to…"
"Let me guess, you've lost that lovin' feeling?"
"What do you suggest?"
"Love her? That's the problem. I don't love her. The feeling just isn't there."
"Maybe you didn't hear what I said. I said, the…feeling…is…not…there!"
"Okay. Got it. But that's all the more reason to…love her…"
"So, how do you love when you don't…love?"
Good question. The answer is simple. Love is a verb. The "feeling" is the fruit that love bears. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice for her. Listen to her. Appreciate her. Go the extra mile for her. Affirm her. Hold her. Talk with her.
Do that and … guess what? The fruit of feeling will return. Sadly, we get it backward. We want the feeling to produce the doing when actually it is the doing that produces the feeling. So, "do." It's really that simple.
"Love is patient,
love is kind
and is not jealous;
love does not brag
and is not arrogant,
does not act unbecomingly;
it does not seek its own,
is not provoked,
does not take into account a wrong suffered,
does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
bears all things,
believes all things,
hopes all things,
endures all things.
Love never fails" (I Corinthians 13:4-8).