All I want to do is get married

Answer:

If you want to get married, you're going about it the wrong way. First, you are choosing men because they take interest in you and not because they are living a Christian life. You are putting being in a relationship ahead of having a relationship with Christ. I suspect you excuse it partly because you see yourself as mostly good. "For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all" (James 2:10). No one keeps the law perfectly; yet, this does not excuse the breaking of God's law. The simple fact is that you are continuing in the sin of fornication and that sin is going to keep you out of heaven if you don't do something about it. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). And claiming that you don't really want to do it while doing it is an empty statement.

Therefore, no more excuses about satisfying his needs. He can satisfy them without sinning with you. If a guy indicates he wants sex before marriage, you walk out the door because that man is not living the Christian life and he won't make a good husband. Your duty is not to satisfy men's desire for sex. You are looking for a man who can give you good reasons to be your husband while you show him that you will make a good wife. That means the man needs to show that he has your best interest at heart. Right now the guys all show that they put their own wants first.

Beyond picking bad men to date, another reason you aren't getting married is that you don't give men a reason to marry you. One of the big drives toward marriage is the allowance to have sex; yet, you offer that without commitment. Yet, without commitment when things go sour, there is no reason to stay. You move to the next guy, he moves to the next gal, and the cycle repeats. This running from difficulties spills over to other aspects of your life. It even affects your relationship with Christ. "Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take away the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be! Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, "the two shall become one flesh." But the one who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body" (I Corinthians 6:15-20).

The way out of this cycle is to put Christ first. Walk out on the bums. Sure, you may spend more of your days alone while you look for the right guy, but it is better than spending your nights in sin.