A girl I’ve been talking to is starting to believe in Jesus. What do I do now?
Question:
Hi,
I am a Christian who came from a Hindu family and believe in Jesus Christ. I have a friend at my workplace. She is Hindu, and I wish to marry her. I introduced Jesus to her. She has now begun to secretly believe in him, and she has started reading the Bible. What should I do now?
Answer:
Continue to teach her. A privately held belief is a good start, but that does not make her a Christian (Matthew 10:32-33). See "How to Become a Christian."
Question:
If she accepts Jesus, can I marry her? Because her parents will oppose it, because they want their daughter to be married to a Hindu, obviously. I don't know what to do.
Answer:
When you are an adult, you make adult decisions. Parents give their advice, but the decision and the responsibilities fall on you. If she chooses to become a Christian and chooses to marry you, then her parents will be unhappy. However, that is what Jesus stated would happen. "He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me" (Matthew 10:37). She has a hard decision to make whether she loves her Jesus or her parents more. Then she has to decide if she wants to marry you. You can offer, but she has to agree.
Question:
Hi,
I have another question to ask: If my parents oppose the marriage, saying it will raise potential problems as her whole family is Hindu, what should I do? How do I convince them? Any suggestions?
Answer:
Your parents are probably correct that you'll have difficulties because her family follows a different religion. Whether you and she marry is a decision that only you and she can make. Your parents have expressed their views. Whether you listen to them or not is your choice. However, when things do become rough because of her family, don't expect sympathy from your family. They warned you.
I'm not saying whether or not you should marry her. I'm trying to tell you that you must take responsibility for your decision -- both the good and the bad. Whether your marriage succeeds depends on how hard the two of you work to make it succeed. It won't succeed or fail because of her parents or yours. If the two of you give your lives to Christ and do as he commands, then it will work because the Bible will teach you how to be a proper husband and wife.
