Is it wrong to grieve silently? I don’t want anyone to see me cry


I have a question about grieving. I got a text this morning that my newborn nephew died last night. I'm a person who typically grieves in silence and doesn't tell anyone. I know at church tomorrow that I may look mopey thinking about this tragedy. My question is how do you feel about silent grieving and is it a bad thing not to tell the church about this? I don't mind sharing, but I'm afraid I may really break down, and I don't want anyone to see me crying.

Thanks in advance for your answer.


"Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation" (Romans 12:15-16).

"So that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it" (I Corinthians 12:25-26).

"Bear one another's burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ" (Galatians 6:2).

"To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit" (I Peter 3:8).

A part of the bond that draws Christians together is the sharing bits of our lives with each other. We then understand each other better. But such bonding can't take place if no one knows what we are experiencing. If our Lord can openly weep, there is no shame if we wept as well (John 11:35).

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