I don’t want to sin anymore
Question:
I was married before, when I was a young kid of 17. I was forced to marry. I didn't know the laws of God because my parents didn't really believe. We never had Bible studies at home, and I never was forced to go to church, so I didn't get to know God.
My husband divorced me. He was sleeping with my best friend and he left me to marry her. Then I got pregnant again by another guy. That son nearly killed me. I was later burned with boiling water, which was the most horrible experience I ever had. Something told me I needed to get out, but I didn't listen. If I had I wouldn't be fighting for my life. I was pregnant at that time, so I left the guy because I nearly died. Then I decided that I didn't want to date anymore. I felt horrible inside and out.
Then I met this amazing guy, who was a Christian. He taught me about God and I was eager to learn more about God. However, we have had sex. I know I committed adultery.
I have given my life completely over to God. I got baptized and I see things differently now. But I am pregnant. I am not sure what to do. I feel like I sin against God so badly. I am coming to you with a pure heart that is seeking God with all that is in me. We didn't plan this. I didn't plan to get pregnant. He is a Christian. He knows the Bible. I didn't know everything. There is so much I still need to learn, but the things I have read in the Bible say am I going to hell. What should we do? He says we should stay unmarried and that I should raise my babies on my own.
I just don't want to sin anymore. I want to live for God completely. I thought that maybe if we marry, stay married, and ask for forgiveness that God will forgive us. What do you suggest? I really need help. I cry so much that I am hardly coping.
Answer:
I assume that you only married once and that you never married the second guy you lived with. If that is the case then you have a right to a second marriage because your first marriage ended because of your husband's adultery (Matthew 19:9).
While the third man claims to be a Christian, he sinned. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). I don't know if this was a slip-up by him or whether he is using Christianity as a cover while living an unrighteous life. That is something you will have to determine. The fact that he doesn't seem to be taking responsibility for his sin and wanting you to raise the child he conceived with you without his help is troublesome.
But given the circumstances, there is no reason you and this man could not get married if you decide he is a worthy man to be your husband. Don't be surprised that if you insist on getting married that he runs off.
Regardless of what happens, you need to continue to read God's word. "So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God" (Romans 10:17). Find a church that is faithful to the truth to worship with. They will be able to help you grow as a Christian. You made a lot of mistakes in your life, but the important thing is that you don't have to remain in those sins (Read Ezekiel 18:21 to the end of the chapter). There may be hardships to face because of your past sins, but if you put God first, those difficulties will become blessings in the long run (James 1:2-4).
