Is marrying without community of property wrong?
Question:
Good day, Minister,
I trust that you are well.
Could you please clarify the following?
Is marrying without a community of property wrong since when two come together and marry, they are considered one? The purpose would be to protect the inheritance of children born before that marriage.
Would it be wrong to expect a spouse, particularly the husband, to help with household chores and kids when both of you have a 9-5 job?
Thank you.
Answer:
It doesn't sound like the two of you are starting on a good footing. A marriage is about two people becoming one. If you lack trust that your partner will take care of your children born before the marriage, then I must question whether you are truly in love. However, if you are concerned about odd things happening in the future, you can talk with a lawyer about the best way to make sure your prior children inherit after your death. I still would urge the two of you to treat the money earned while you are married as a joint asset. Again, if you don't trust him, I would have to ask why you are marrying him.
Household chores are an expectation that must be discussed prior to marriage. Some couples divide up the chores, and some share the chores. Marriage is about working together toward common goals, not about arguing about whose turn it is to wash the dishes. The best time to work out the kinks is before you get married.
