Could I pay the dowry now, have sex, and get married later?

Question: Hello, I have a few questions I’d like to ask. I have been reading your posts, and I like your answers because they are in line with God. I have a girlfriend whom I love so much and want to spend the rest of my life with. I am a Christian, and she is…

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We just can’t get enough money for lobola in order to get married

Question: Good day, I have a very loving relationship with the father of my toddler. We love one another dearly, but unfortunately, we have no money. He has no money, and I cannot go on living day-to-day worried about the next meal. Our child lives at my home, where my parents cater to the child’s…

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Should I get married without a bride price being paid?

Question: Hello, my brother, I am told your bride price must be paid before marriage and you can get married before your bride price is paid. My question is I want to get married and be clean before God because I have children with my fiancé and we are not married.  My friends have arranged…

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Is paying lobola equivalent to marriage?

Question: Greetings, I would like to know if lobola (bride price) is equivalent to marriage with regards to sexual relations.  I have recently paid lobola (bride price)  but not the full amount, I am saving money and will pay the full price next and then get married.  My curiosity is: Is it ok still sinful…

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A Question about Dowries

Question: I have a question bothering me and this issue is about tearing apart one of our congregations here in Nigeria. Please, is parental consent considered to be marriage; that is, the cohabitation of a man and a woman without the payment of a bride price or dowry? Since examples in the Bible state Christ…

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