Will God understand that I have trouble loving people?

Question: I am really messed up. I was subjected to severe sexual, emotional, and physical abuse as a child. I do not love myself, do not really like myself. As I age, I keep more and more to myself, only doing shopping as needed, and going to church. I was baptized about 36 years ago…

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My wife embarrassed me in public and I ended up slapping her

Question: I just came across this ministry column. I read a few emails and responses and I need your help too. Recently my wife provoked me badly in front of my friends, screaming and asking for ‘her’ car keys. Keys to a car we recently acquired together and which has caused us many arguments since…

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I left an abusive marriage. Can I date and remarry?

Question: I divorced a man who hit my son and hit me. His pastor says that I am not allowed to ever remarry and if I date and remarry I will burn in the Lake of fire and hear his words for all eternity in my mind in Hell. My ex-husband did not have sex…

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How do I help my mother who is being abused by my father?

Question: Hello sir, I am 23 and recently finished my schooling. My dad denies Christ, but my mom is a believer. My dad is short-tempered. From the beginning, my mom was treated by him as a servant. He used to beat her, use abusive words over her — sometimes in front of other people, too.…

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How do I help a girl who has abusive parents?

Question: Hi Mr. Hamilton! I’ve written to you before and I greatly appreciate your site, which I visit almost daily. I know you’re busy, so I’ll try to keep this somewhat brief (I am greatly sorry for the length). I’m also going to try and present an objective account, though it is from my perspective,…

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I find myself wanting to go back to a man who hasn’t been good to me

Question: Hi, I just came across this site. It seems very helpful, but I need some answers myself. I am really struggling. I have been through a recent breakup because the guy was always breaking up with me and then coming back wanting everything to be fine. In trying times in our relationship, he would…

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My wife is abusive and I cannot live with her anymore. What do I do?

Question: My wife of over thirty years and I have been working on serious relational issues for a long time. She was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive over most of those years, and counselors have suggested she has some light form of paranoia and other mental issues. I tend to think there is a stronger…

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