{"id":9903,"date":"2007-05-24T12:09:07","date_gmt":"2007-05-24T17:09:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=9903"},"modified":"2019-09-18T12:12:50","modified_gmt":"2019-09-18T17:12:50","slug":"what-can-we-do-to-maintain-intimacy-in-the-bedroom-without-sinning-since-we-are-not-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/what-can-we-do-to-maintain-intimacy-in-the-bedroom-without-sinning-since-we-are-not-married\/","title":{"rendered":"What can we do to maintain intimacy in the bedroom without sinning since we are not married?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and two months and we&#8217;ve been having sex for quite some time.\u00a0 We recently had a talk the other night about whether or not having sex was wrong before marriage, and we were wondering since it&#8217;s approved for married couples and we&#8217;re not married what can we do to maintain that intimacy in the bedroom without sinning?<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>Get married.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;<em>Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge<\/em>&#8221; (Hebrews 13:4).<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;<em>But if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion<\/em>&#8221; (I Corinthians 13:9).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>See:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/why-sex-outside-of-marriage-is-wrong\/\">Why Sex Outside of Marriage Is Wrong<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and two months and we&#8217;ve been having sex for quite some time.\u00a0 We recently had a talk the other night about whether or not having sex was wrong before marriage, and we were wondering since it&#8217;s approved for married couples and we&#8217;re not&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[1572],"class_list":["post-9903","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-fornication"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":39778,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/is-it-a-sin-to-marry-after-having-sex\/","url_meta":{"origin":9903,"position":0},"title":"Is it a sin to marry after having sex?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"July 26, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I have one question for you because I'm really confused about what to decide. 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