I have been having sleepless night concerning my state now. I feel ashamed after several times of disobedience by committing fornication. I really don’t know what to do telling my pastor would worsen the whole issue. I have called off relationship because I don’t want to give in to sex again.<\/p>\n
I am restless as I never plan to find myself in such a situation and stopping it now is a big challenge. We plan on getting married, but there’s no money as my dad has died.\u00a0 My family wants to charge much for the dowry. I am a convert from a Muslim family and my mom’s children are referred to as outside children because my dad was not from the same community with my mom.<\/p>\n
Seriously sir, I have grown to love him. We are both near 30 years of age. Though we are both graduates, finding jobs is not easy in this country. I have talked to him several times but money is not available to meet our plan to get married.<\/p>\n
Sir, please, I don’t really know what to do right now as we keep making the same mistake even after prayers and promising not to do it again. I am a true Christian and a lover of God, but this is a serious threat to my salvation.<\/p>\n\t
If you want to marry this man, both of you are of legal age to get married. You can get a civil marriage for little money in your country. I understand the desire to have a traditional marriage, but if your family is being unreasonable by setting too high of a dowry, then you do what is necessary to stay in obedience to God.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: I have been having sleepless night concerning my state now. I feel ashamed after several times of disobedience by committing fornication. I really don’t know what to do telling my pastor would worsen the whole issue. I have called off relationship because I don’t want to give in to sex again. I am restless…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[1572],"class_list":["post-9753","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-fornication"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":46894,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-marry-the-father-of-my-children\/","url_meta":{"origin":9753,"position":0},"title":"Should I marry the father of my children?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"January 11, 2016","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello, I am the mother of three children. 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