by David Gibson<\/p>\n
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD<\/em>” (Proverbs 18:22 NASB).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Why marry?<\/h2>\n
The Bible offers two options: 1) being married or 2) remaining single. Each has its own advantages (I Corinthians 7). Whether to marry is an individual decision.<\/p>\n
Peter, for example, was married; Paul was not. There’s a place for both in God’s kingdom. But if we choose to marry, we need to understand God’s purposes for the marriage relationship.<\/p>\n
Purpose #1: Procreation<\/h2>\n
“Behold, children are a gift of the LORD<\/em> . . .” (Psalm 127:3).<\/p>\n
The sexual union as God made it is good (Genesis 1:27-28, 31). He created sex to be enjoyed by a husband and wife within the covenant of marriage.<\/p>\n
No other sexual relationship has His blessing (Hebrews 13:4).<\/p>\n
Purpose #2: Companionship<\/h2>\n
Before God formed Eve, He said of Adam, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him<\/em>” (Genesis 2:18). And He did!<\/p>\n
God made males and females different from one another biologically, emotionally, etc. Each brings something unique to the relationship.<\/p>\n
Purpose #3: Nurturing Children<\/h2>\n
Although many single moms and dads are wonderful parents, children thrive best when they have two parents who model and teach God’s word (Proverbs 6:20). Both boys and girls need the complementary, synergistic male\/female influence of both parents.<\/p>\n
Purpose #4: Avoiding Temptation<\/h2>\n
Paul distinguishes between those who have a gift for remaining single and those who would do better to marry (I Corinthians 7:7-9).<\/p>\n
“… because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband<\/em>” (I Corinthains 7:2).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
A couple should not deprive one another of intercourse, “except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:3-5).<\/p>\n
Since God designed intercourse exclusively for marriage, it serves as the only legitimate means of satisfying sexual desires. Therefore, the frequency of intercourse helps prevent immorality.<\/p>\n
God’s Plan<\/h2>\n
When we honor and observe God’s design for marriage, we will be blessed. God truly wants us to enjoy happy, lasting marriages. And we can. He has told us how.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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