Any advice on how to handle a marriage to a drug addict?<\/a><\/p>\nWhat I’m trying to figure out is why you seem to be blaming God for this situation. I assume you accepted this man back into your life without evidence that he repented of his sins. Yes, God forgave you but that came after you changed your life and left sin behind. Jesus told his disciples, “Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him<\/em>” (Luke 17:3). We don’t forgive just to say the words. The aim is always the rescuing of the person in sin. Thus, I want to have my brother saved, so I warn him that he is in sin and try to convince him to leave sin. When he repents, I am there to forgive him. Too often people say they forgive another, but it is just empty words to avoid any effort in rescuing a brother.<\/p>\nJesus taught that we should desire to forgive others. “For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions<\/em>” (Matthew 6:14-15). Since forgiveness is based on repentance from sin, I am not going to hold a grudge against another but work toward their ultimate good.<\/p>\nUnfortunately, your husband did not change, except, perhaps, in regards to adultery.\u00a0 He doesn’t have any motivation to change. He doesn’t accept that he is going to face Judgment over his sins, and his wife allows his continued drug use and pornography watching.<\/p>\n
Thus, it is time to insist on changes in his life and if not, it is time to withdraw your support of him until he does change.<\/p>\n
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