{"id":92663,"date":"2025-12-18T14:19:21","date_gmt":"2025-12-18T20:19:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=92663"},"modified":"2025-12-24T10:52:43","modified_gmt":"2025-12-24T16:52:43","slug":"is-my-husband-committing-fornication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/is-my-husband-committing-fornication\/","title":{"rendered":"Is my husband committing fornication?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t

Question:<\/h2>\n

I have a very serious yet difficult question to ask. Because this situation is very complicated, I really feel the need for sound biblical guidance.<\/p>\n

My husband is a cross-dresser, and he is very weird. I didn’t realize the depth of his sexual desires when we married. In fact, it wasn’t until we bought our home and had been married about two years that I began to see behaviors not fit for a marital relationship. He will go out in public as a woman or wear women’s underwear and bras with falsies in them. I’m deeply disturbed not only about this, but instead of intercourse, he wants me to put my fingers inside of him and use a strap-on. He’s really not interested in intercourse. He wants oral sex, the receiving end, but as far as wanting a tender, loving sexual relationship that a good, solid marriage has, he wants perverse things.<\/p>\n

It took a couple of years for all this to come out, and, needless to say, I really don’t know how much more I can take of this. This has really made me dislike the very thought of any sexual encounter with him. I have tried speaking to him, but he gets mad. I feel guilty writing this behind his back, but I really don’t know what to think! He gets worse all the time. I had hoped this was a passing thing he got caught up in, and that he would grow bored with it.<\/p>\n

When I have spoken against transgender people, homosexuals, etc., he tells me I’m talking about his people. I’m not sure what to do.<\/p>\n

I can’t say for a fact that he has ever physically cheated on me with another man or woman. But I do know he is very obsessed with porn and looks at it. I looked at his phone and found websites of several porn sites, and some are gay sex. I found pics of him that he took of himself inserting objects into himself. I’m disgusted, and I have fallen out of love with him. My heartbreaks that he thinks more of the porn and perverse acts than saving his marriage. He masturbates at night in bed next to me, while I’m sure he’s looking at porn. He will turn down making love to me to please himself, and he only wants the perverse things I can do to him. Very seldom will he have intercourse. I honestly think sometimes it disgusts him. He wants to be the woman, and I the man.<\/p>\n

So, do I have a biblical right to leave or am I to stay in this marriage? Is he committing unclean sexual acts against our marriage, is it fornication or adultery, or just sinful?<\/p>\n

If you could, please email me your response. I would sincerely appreciate any advice you can offer. And yes, I do pray for him!<\/p>\n\t

Answer:<\/h2>\n

What your husband is doing is sinful. However, it is not classified as fornication. See What is included in porneia?<\/a><\/p>\n

It is likely that he has or will get involved in sexual activity with others since sin tends to be progressive.<\/p>\n

Whether you stay in this marriage is up to you. If you divorce him without knowledge of his committing fornication, then you will need to remain unmarried until the time he comes out of his sin and remarries you or until his death. I genuinely hope he gets help and turns back to the truth.<\/p>\n\t

Response:<\/h2>\n

Dear pastor,<\/p>\n

Thank you for giving me good sound Biblical advice. I am going to continue praying for him and see what happens.<\/p>\n

Thank you so much. God bless.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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