reason<\/em> why you don’t want her going out with this particular boy. Instead, you give me and likely gave her as well, meaningless, emotional appeals. How is she supposed to respect something that isn’t respectable? In addition, you state that you gave her permission to go, but now that she is going, you are upset with her for doing what you gave her permission to do. The word for saying one thing but meaning another is hypocrisy. You are not giving her a consistent message and are then upset that she isn’t understanding what you are not saying.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Question: How do I best handle a 16-year-old daughter who chooses her 18-year-old boyfriend over her own flesh and blood? She threatened to run away from home if we didn’t let her go to his Senior Prom. 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