Well, we had a stormy night at services!\u00a0 A brother lost his temper and made a big scene just at the end of class and was upset so far as I can tell that we did not get to the next lesson as I reviewed the one we were on for the benefit of our new convert, who is struggling with his faith as well.\u00a0 We had a visitor who was very active in participating in the class which apparently made this brother upset and it led to a big outburst on his part, with him pointing at me and “saying it was all my fault.” He said he was leaving and would not be back. He then grabbed his girls and left, slamming the door. This upset everyone who was present especially one of our older lady members!<\/p>\n
So, I have my hands full!\u00a0 Any suggestions? In all my years in the church, I have never seen anyone act like that in a Bible class! Please pray for us!<\/p>\n\t
I wish I could say I hadn’t seen this before, but I had many years ago. It is the nature of the situation that this man’s anger is only the outward expression of much deeper problems. You need to address his anger, but without addressing the sins in this man’s life that are leading to his outbursts, it will be a recurring problem.<\/p>\n
There are lessons on the issue of anger on this site:<\/p>\n
The problem, however, needs to be addressed quickly. This type of sin spreads quickly through a congregation, both in further anger and in sapping everyone’s strength. “Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, Lest you learn his ways And set a snare for your soul<\/em>” (Proverbs 22:24-25).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: Well, we had a stormy night at services!\u00a0 A brother lost his temper and made a big scene just at the end of class and was upset so far as I can tell that we did not get to the next lesson as I reviewed the one we were on for the benefit of…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[1503,1513],"class_list":["post-8759","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-anger","tag-relationships"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":87183,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/my-cousin-is-upset-that-i-didnt-invite-her-to-my-wedding\/","url_meta":{"origin":8759,"position":0},"title":"My cousin is upset that I didn’t invite her to my wedding","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"May 20, 2025","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello Pastor, I have a question that has been on my mind recently.\u00a0I was reading in Matthew something like, \"If your brother has something against you, leave your offering at the altar and reconcile.\"\u00a0I remembered a circumstance that happened a while ago, and it's worrying me if I'm right\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":15813,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/how-could-you-possibly-say-baptism-does-not-save\/","url_meta":{"origin":8759,"position":1},"title":"How could you possibly say baptism does not save?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"July 19, 2008","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I enjoy going to your site and looking at\u00a0your pictures, but today I was reading some of the off-the-wall comments made by Jeffrey Hamilton. 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