{"id":86563,"date":"2025-04-11T15:06:48","date_gmt":"2025-04-11T20:06:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=86563"},"modified":"2025-04-11T15:06:48","modified_gmt":"2025-04-11T20:06:48","slug":"it-is-hard-to-find-a-christian-to-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/it-is-hard-to-find-a-christian-to-date\/","title":{"rendered":"It is hard to find a Christian to date"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>To Whom It May Concern,<\/p>\n<p>I am a 27-year-old male, never married, and have no children. I&#8217;m single and am a member of a local church of Christ. My question is regarding relationships. There are no opportunities for me to date where I am a member. I want to wait on the Lord patiently and faithfully, but I also know He expects us to put forth effort in our lives. I don&#8217;t want to seem desperate to get married, but I also want to put myself out there. I&#8217;ve visited several congregations further away from me and have been blessed to make connections with other Christians my age. But nothing has come of it. I pray about it, go to as many services and events as possible, visit other congregations, and work on myself. I do believe the Lord will bless me with a godly spouse eventually, but I can&#8217;t help but feel like time and hope are running out.<\/p>\n<p>Any guidance or spiritual wisdom would be greatly appreciated.<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>I agree that it is becoming increasingly difficult to find Christians to date. I have long considered creating a site restricted to single members of the church, but the logistics and estimated time needed to manage it are daunting.<\/p>\n<p>There are a few sites that you can try. Please keep in mind that not everyone claiming to be a Christian is a Christian. See &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/resources\/meeting-other-members-of-the-church-of-christ\/\">Meeting Other Members of the Church of Christ<\/a>.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: To Whom It May Concern, I am a 27-year-old male, never married, and have no children. I&#8217;m single and am a member of a local church of Christ. My question is regarding relationships. There are no opportunities for me to date where I am a member. I want to wait on the Lord patiently&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[149],"class_list":["post-86563","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-dating"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":31393,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/as-i-grow-in-the-lord-i-find-i-am-struggling-with-my-past-and-current-sins\/","url_meta":{"origin":86563,"position":0},"title":"As I grow in the Lord, I find I am struggling with my past and current sins","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"January 21, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello, my brother in Christ, I have been a member of the church for a number of years. 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