Dear Sir,<\/p>\n
My adult daughter is living with a guy twice her age. They want to get married, and it appears he wants my blessing. However, he doesn’t have a vehicle, can’t keep a job thus far and just started a new job a couple of weeks ago, doesn’t have a credit card, which is required by most landlords to apply for phone and internet services, nor does he know how to manage money, etc.<\/p>\n
I have said no for legal reasons while at the same time telling them that because they are both adults, I can’t stop them. They hold to opposite faith views as well. She’s my prodigal.<\/p>\n
Fornication in the Bible is wrong, so am I wrong in the advice I gave?<\/p>\n\t
A blessing is merely your approval of the person your child has chosen to marry. It doesn’t hold any legal meaning in most countries. Your child has made a poor choice in whom she wants to marry you, so it is reasonable to say, “No.” She doesn’t need her mother’s approval to ease her conscience.<\/p>\n
If you are in the Philippines, someone between the ages of 18 and 21 must have parental consent before they marry. Those between 21 and 28 are asked to get a letter of parental advice, but they can still get married if such a letter is withheld.<\/p>\n
If your daughter decides to have sex without getting married, that would be her decision (Ezekiel 18:20). Your objection to her marriage is not a reason for your daughter to sin.<\/p>\n\t
Thanks for taking the time to answer my concerns. \u00a0I feel much better now, and the weight has been lifted.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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