Alright, sir.<\/p>\n
I slept with my lover’s friend. Truth be told, I don’t know how it happened because he bothered me before and I refused. I even told my man about him and actions were taken, but I don’t know how I succumbed. Everything happened in a flash, and I’m wondering why, after refusing, all of sudden I agreed. I really don’t know how everything happened. I’m really confused.<\/p>\n\t
If you don’t know and you were there, the odds that I’m going to accurately explain what happened is not high. But there are a few things we need to discuss.<\/p>\n
By calling your current boyfriend your “lover,” you are implying that you are having sex with a man without being married. Fornication is a sin (Hebrews 13:4). Thus, you are not upset that you are violating God’s law, but that you committed fornication with multiple men. But that is the nature of sin — it tends to progress from bad to worse.<\/p>\n
You mentioned that this second man had been trying to get you to have sex with him for a while. You trusted in your ability to say “no” to him, but you did nothing to stop seeing him. I would guess that you found the attention flattering, though unwanted. Eventually, he wore down your defenses. I would not be surprised to learn that alcohol or drugs were involved. I would not be surprised if you allowed sexual touching to go on. However it happened, at a weak moment, you gave in to the temptation. The real problem was thinking you were strong enough to defeat temptation instead of running from it.<\/p>\n
Regardless, the true danger is that you are living a life that will not lead you to heaven (I Corinthians 6:9-10). Chasing after pleasure allowed bad things to happen and these will progress unless you make an effort to change. The solution is to submit to the laws of God.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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