Hello,<\/p>\n
I have a daughter who has been living with her boyfriend for the past two years. They want to come visit. I’m unsure if allowing them to sleep together in our guest room is right. Should I let them know they’re welcome to visit and sleep in our home, but not in the same bedroom or bed?<\/p>\n
I look forward to hearing back from you.<\/p>\n\t
Keep in mind that it is your daughter’s poor decisions that make the situation awkward for you.<\/p>\n
“And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, … and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them<\/em>” (Romans 1:28,32).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
While your daughter is responsible for her decisions, it does not follow that you must support or encourage her choices. Personally, I would find the boyfriend a place to stay nearby. He can spend the day at your house but must sleep elsewhere. If they don’t like the arrangement, let them know that you’ll happily welcome them to stay in your home once they get married.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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