Is it biblical for unmarried couples to live together if they are just powerful enough to resist temptation, or are they merely fooling themselves and still giving the assumption of sin?<\/p>\n\t
“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall<\/em>” (I Corinthians 10:12).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
While it is your intention not to have sex, you are dramatically increasing the temptation you will be facing and the opportunity to commit fornication. You know you aren’t married yet, but your body’s instincts don’t consider your marital state. It is designed to want and have sex. “Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Or can a man walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched?<\/em>” (Proverbs 6:27-28). Expecting a hot coal not to burn you is foolish. It doesn’t matter if you hug it. It will still burn because that is its nature. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t intend to step on it. Fire doesn’t consider your intentions. Solomon’s point is that to think your sexual instincts act differently because of your intentions is equally foolish. Suppose the two of you slip up; could you really claim innocence? (Proverbs 6:29).<\/p>\n
Then there is the problem of your reputation. Few, knowing of the situation, would believe that you were not having sex, mostly because they would assume that you are just like them, and they would not be restraining themselves. We are not to behave like worldly people. When speaking of how slaves should treat their masters, Paul said, “All who are under the yoke as slaves are to regard their own masters as worthy of all honor so that the name of God and our doctrine will not be spoken against<\/em>” (I Timothy 6:1). The principle can be applied even to this situation. Christ’s doctrine stands against fornication. Christians should not give others the impression that ignoring our Lord’s commands is acceptable. “But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among sain<\/em>ts” (Ephesians 5:3).<\/p>\n
If you need to move in together, get married first. If you have no intentions of marrying each other, then stay away from situations that can lead to sin. “But examine everything carefully; hold fast to that which is good; abstain from every form of evil<\/em>” (I Thessalonians 5:21-22).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: Is it biblical for unmarried couples to live together if they are just powerful enough to resist temptation, or are they merely fooling themselves and still giving the assumption of sin? Answer: “Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall” (I Corinthians 10:12). 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