I have been living with my children’s father for ten years. I am a stay-at-home mom in my late twenties. I was baptized at my church camp. He’s upset with me all the time — before and after I was baptized.<\/p>\n
Well, I sinned. I had sex with him two weeks ago. The reason I did is that I don’t work and he’s the head of the family. When I don’t give him what he wants, he doesn’t give me money. I prayed and repented. I ask God to forgive me. I know I was wrong. Our wedding was supposed to be this month, but things didn’t work out the way I plan.<\/p>\n
He’s always upset with me, so since I prayed. I stopped having sex with him and he really upset about that. Every day is a problem. Nothing I do is good enough for him. I do pray for him and most of the time he brings up the past. I don’t know what more to do — if I should stay or move on. It is hard. One time it is marriage talk and the next time it is “I don’t love you, I don’t want you and other bad things. He would say things like I should die and then “When is sex?” Or then I hear “I love you” but he doesn’t mean it.<\/p>\n
I’m sorry, is this love? Because this is not what I want if it is.<\/p>\n
Please, I need answers. Please help me because he’s not a Christan. He’s unsaved.<\/p>\n\t
You said you repented, but you haven’t really made any changes. You are still living with a man you are not married to. There is talk about getting married, but neither one of you seem all that interested in marrying each other.<\/p>\n
What you describe is not even close to love. You are both using the other person. You use him for the money he provides. He uses you for sexual favors.<\/p>\n
You are going to have to make changes — drastic changes. Either you choose to love this man and marry him or you move out and start being a responsible adult Christian. Either path is likely to be difficult. What you can’t continue to do is live a life of sin and expect to reach heaven.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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