{"id":5133,"date":"2019-06-25T20:04:28","date_gmt":"2019-06-26T01:04:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=5133"},"modified":"2019-06-25T20:04:28","modified_gmt":"2019-06-26T01:04:28","slug":"what-about-people-who-play-the-victim-card","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/what-about-people-who-play-the-victim-card\/","title":{"rendered":"What about people who play the victim card?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Hi,<\/p>\n<p>I was wondering what the Bible has to say about those who play the victim card to deceive people.<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>All lying is wrong, regardless of the motivation behind the lies (Proverbs 6:16-19; Revelation 21:8). Thus, to do something with the intent of deceiving people is sinful.<\/p>\n<p>There are various reasons people play at being a victim.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They may want the sympathy of others to get them to do things for them. For example, some women play a damsel in distress, knowing that this attracts men. &#8220;<em>The woman of folly is boisterous, she is naive and knows nothing<\/em>&#8221; (Proverbs 9:13). Men tend to want to be the knight in shining armor rescuing the damsel in distress; thus, a seductress plays at being innocent and ignorant.<\/li>\n<li>Others play at being a victim to avoid responsibility for their actions. A thief may say that he had to steal because he could not afford the item he wanted; though the truth is that he doesn&#8217;t manage his money properly or is too lazy to get a good job. A homosexual might claim he is born that way, but even it was true (and it isn&#8217;t), it would not excuse a choice to sin. We are all born heterosexual, but that doesn&#8217;t excuse fornication.<\/li>\n<li>A similar reason for choosing to be a victim is to attempt to reverse the blame. The person pointing out the sin is made out to be a vile person because they lack sympathy toward a victim. Some denominations will claim that they are victims of persecution when their false teachings are exposed.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There was a case where King Saul tried to play the victim: &#8220;<em>Now he waited seven days, according to the appointed time set by Samuel, but Samuel did not come to Gilgal; and the people were scattering from him. So Saul said, &#8220;Bring to me the burnt offering and the peace offerings.&#8221; And he offered the burnt offering. As soon as he finished offering the burnt offering, behold, Samuel came; and Saul went out to meet him and to greet him. But Samuel said, &#8220;What have you done?&#8221; And Saul said, &#8220;Because I saw that the people were scattering from me, and that you did not come within the appointed days, and that the Philistines were assembling at Michmash, therefore I said, &#8216;Now the Philistines will come down against me at Gilgal, and I have not asked the favor of the LORD.&#8217; So I forced myself and offered the burnt offering&#8221;<\/em>&#8221; (I Samuel 13:8-12). Saul wanted sympathy for his disobedience. He claimed it wasn&#8217;t really his fault, Samuel was late and Saul wanted God&#8217;s blessing, though you can&#8217;t expect God to bless disobedience.<\/p>\n<p>The nation of Israel also soothe themselves in captivity by telling themselves that they were suffering for their ancestors&#8217; sins (Ezekiel 18), but the truth was that they were suffering because they continued the sins of their ancestors.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Hi, I was wondering what the Bible has to say about those who play the victim card to deceive people. Answer: All lying is wrong, regardless of the motivation behind the lies (Proverbs 6:16-19; Revelation 21:8). Thus, to do something with the intent of deceiving people is sinful. There are various reasons people play&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[774,392,354],"class_list":["post-5133","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-blaming-others","tag-lying","tag-responsibility"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":70166,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/christian-victim-card\/","url_meta":{"origin":5133,"position":0},"title":"Christian Victim Card","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"October 4, 2024","format":false,"excerpt":"by Chadwick Brewer \"Do not be surprised, brothers, that the world hates you\" (I John 3:13). 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