This isn’t a question. It is in answer to something you wrote to someone about adultery. Sadly, I went to a mature Christian and was told to confess. I have wrecked a 25+ year marriage and my kids are devastated.<\/p>\n\t
I’m sorry to hear this. Sadly, I can’t undo the damage already done.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: This isn’t a question. It is in answer to something you wrote to someone about adultery. Sadly, I went to a mature Christian and was told to confess. I have wrecked a 25+ year marriage and my kids are devastated. Answer: I’m sorry to hear this. 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