Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body<\/em>” (I Corinthians 6:18). The reason you had sex together was because of selfish desires. This wasn’t about benefiting the other person.<\/p>\nSince you both sinned, you both were heading to hell. You, however, finally realized how wrong you were. I’m glad you repented. Show the zeal that Paul talks about in II Corinthians 7:10-11 in your life from now on.<\/p>\n
You are right that your bad example showed you to be a hypocrite. You didn’t honor God or make His teaching look important in your life. But you can’t begin fixing this problem by continuing to sin.<\/p>\n
Whether you marry her or not is up to you. You haven’t mentioned her having any qualities that would make her a suitable companion for the rest of your life. The decision about whether to marry her has to be made independent of your sexual sins. Under the Old Law, a man who had sex with a virgin was required to marry her if her father agreed (Deuteronomy 22:28-29; Exodus 22:16-17). We aren’t under that law, and you didn’t mention if she was a virgin or not. The law was there because a man having sex with a virgin ruined her reputation making it harder for her to find a husband. It also served as a way to encourage young men to think before their passions trapped them in a marriage they could not get out of.<\/p>\n
Marrying her is no guarantee that she will become a Christian and serve Christ faithfully. Teaching her is something that is likely not possible for you to do. You can’t trust yourself being alone with her. Your actions are a barrier to her believing the truth. You can use this as a teaching moment when you explain why you cannot have sex with her or anyone other than your future wife, but likely she will see this as self-serving. You’ll have to pray that someone else will be able to reach her with the gospel.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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