Is it OK to be sexual with someone you will marry soon?<\/a><\/p>\nSin isn’t taken care of by pretending it didn’t happen, nor is fasting a cure for temptation. “These are matters which have, to be sure, the appearance of wisdom in self-made religion and self-abasement and severe treatment of the body, but are of no value against fleshly indulgence<\/em>” (Colossians 2:23). The answer is for both of you to admit that you have been sinning — not just today, but all along the way — and make changes in both your attitude regarding what you have been doing and changes in your behavior so that you are no longer involved in any of it. While you want to be close to God, you have not been living a life that draws you close. Sins separate you from God (Isaiah 59:1).<\/p>\nI hope that both of you decide to change, but from your description, I get the impression that your boyfriend didn’t think he did anything wrong. He is only upset that you are upset. If that is the case, you may find that he won’t change his behavior to be godly. If that happens, you will have to decide whether God is more important to you or your boyfriend. I hope it doesn’t come down to that, but you need to be prepared for the possibility.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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