As hard as it is, you have to take your boyfriend at his word. He told you that he doesn’t want to get married. He believes that being involved in a marriage will tie him down. That tells me that he doesn’t plan on staying with you in the future, especially when he gets an overseas job.<\/p>\n
This is not a man to marry, so it is time to let him go and find a man interested in marriage. Then wait until after marriage to have sex.<\/p>\n\t
Thank you very much. I will do so.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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