Greetings, I would like to know if lobola (bride price) is equivalent to marriage with regards to sexual relations.\u00a0 I have recently paid lobola (bride price) \u00a0but not the full amount, I am saving money and will pay the full price next and then get married.\u00a0 My curiosity is: Is it ok still sinful to have sexual relations after paying the bride price and having been declared the groom and the bride but prior to marriage?<\/p>\n\t
As you noted, you are not yet married. There is no covenant entered into (Malachi 2:14), just an intention to enter a covenant with her. Until the wedding takes place and you made a covenant with her, sex is not allowed. “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge<\/em>” (Hebrews 13:4).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: Greetings, I would like to know if lobola (bride price) is equivalent to marriage with regards to sexual relations.\u00a0 I have recently paid lobola (bride price) \u00a0but not the full amount, I am saving money and will pay the full price next and then get married.\u00a0 My curiosity is: Is it ok still sinful…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[1454,1572,1453,64],"class_list":["post-46257","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-dowry","tag-fornication","tag-lobola","tag-marriage"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":47773,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-get-married-without-a-bride-price-being-paid\/","url_meta":{"origin":46257,"position":0},"title":"Should I get married without a bride price being paid?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"March 27, 2016","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello, my brother, I am told your bride price must be paid before marriage and you can get married before your bride price is paid. 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