Can I be forgiven of fornication?<\/a>\u00a0You need to radically change.<\/p>\nYou need to decide who you want to marry and part of that decision will also be whether either girl will accept you. The biggest problem at the moment is that you seem to desire what is immediately available; thus, whichever girl you are currently with will seem to be the one you most want. To get your mind back to a more reasoned state, I want you to take a piece of paper and list out what are your goals in life. For example, you state you want to follow Christ, so that would be one of your goals.<\/p>\n
Next, take two pieces of paper and draw a line down the middle. Use one paper for each girl. In one column write how this girl benefits you and can help you reach your goals. In the other column list out how she might hinder you from reaching your goals, or the characteristics she has that might be hard to get along with.<\/p>\n
Hopefully, by the time you complete this project, you will have a clearer understanding of what you should do. From what you said, the second girl comes up short. Under her influence, you committed fornication, left the Lord, and had your child murdered. This doesn’t strike me as a quality woman to be your wife.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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