{"id":44821,"date":"2015-03-05T10:56:00","date_gmt":"2015-03-05T16:56:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=44821"},"modified":"2022-03-13T11:00:20","modified_gmt":"2022-03-13T16:00:20","slug":"can-i-remarry-if-i-encouraged-my-wife-to-see-other-men-before-i-became-a-christian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/can-i-remarry-if-i-encouraged-my-wife-to-see-other-men-before-i-became-a-christian\/","title":{"rendered":"Can I remarry if I encouraged my wife to see other men before I became a Christian?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t

Question:<\/h2>\n

Before I was a believer I had encouraged my wife to have sex with another man in the twisted idea that it would bring a spark back into our poor sex life. In essence, I was encouraging her to become a “swinger”. Well, she eventually did just that but also fell in love with this man. I tried for years to fix this and get her to stop after I repented of my sin in many tears, but she decided to leave me and stay with him.<\/p>\n

I understand that she is in an adulterous relationship and someone who commits adultery can never marry again. I also understand that the spouse who did not commit adultery is free to marry a believer. I understand the word pornea<\/em> to include more than adultery. I think it would include things like illicit sexual intercourse, adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, intercourse with animals, and incest.\u00a0 So considering that pornea<\/em> covers many sexual sins would what I did by encouraging my wife to be a swinger disqualify me from a remarriage?<\/p>\n

I didn’t commit any of the above sexual sins but I did break my marriage covenant by encouraging my wife to have sex with another.\u00a0 However, I did not “force” my wife to do this. She should not have listened to me.<\/p>\n

Thank you.<\/p>\n\t

Answer:<\/h2>\n

You are guilty of encouraging your wife to sin. But that encouragement was not pornea<\/em>.\u00a0Pornea<\/em>\u00a0is sexual acts outside of marriage. Your wife is guilty of that sin. You were guilty of encouraging her.<\/p>\n

You turned from your sin, though I do not know if you have fully done what God said is needed to gain forgiveness of your sins. See What Must I Do to be Saved?<\/a><\/p>\n

Sadly your wife embraced her sin, instead of turning from it. I assume your marriage ended in divorce? While you are not guilt-free, and few are when divorce is involved, technically you would be allowed to marry again.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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