Hello,<\/p>\n
I am currently unemployed and have been for 6 months. Four years ago I fell in love with someone else. My goal is to find another job, then my child and I will move, or whatever we as the parents decide. We had a huge argument a few days ago. He said he gives me three months to find a job then he is leaving, but he never does. Is there something else I should do? I am a Christian but at some point lost faith and hope. We are not married. He is still married but has been separated for 7 years. The other man is single. I just want a pleasant happier environment for my child and me, whether the other man and I end up together or not.<\/p>\n\t
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God<\/em>” (I Corinthians 6:9-10).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
You are currently living with a married man; therefore, you are living in adultery. In addition, you are seeing another man. If sex is also involved with this man, then you are committing fornication since he is single. However you look at this, you may call yourself a Christian, but you are not living as a Christian should live. “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?<\/em>” (Romans 6:1-2).<\/p>\n
Following God’s laws generally results in a happier life, but the focus is on obedience. Happiness is a side-effect. When a person chases after happiness, he tends to look at his immediate emotions and not the long-term effects of his decisions. Emotional decision-making will lead you astray. “He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but whoever walks wisely will be delivered<\/em>” (Proverbs 28:26).<\/p>\n
Therefore, I urge you to focus on doing what is right. You need to stop living with men you are not married to. Find a man who is willing to marry you before he jumps into bed with you.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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