Hello,<\/p>\n
I am a 25-year-old married woman, and I am currently pregnant with my first child. My husband and I have been together for five years and married for over two years.<\/p>\n
When we were first together, I was at a very low point in my faith. We were not abstaining from sex. I had read somewhere that watching pornography would improve our relationship, but little did I know how quickly I would become addicted to it. After dealing with the spiraling addiction on my own for nearly two years, I finally came clean to my friend first, then my husband, and then my family about my addiction. I also went to a local church to be prayed over and blocked as many porn sites as I could find.<\/p>\n
For a long time, everything was great, and I did not watch porn or feel tempted for many months. But within the last year or so, the temptations have come back. I have found that even basic social media sites and websites contain soft porn. Sadly, I have messed up several times again, and the worst part is that I’m pregnant. Although I have taken measures to the point where I have come clean to my husband, deleted all social media\/websites, and even blocked pictures and videos on my phone, I’m terrified that the damage has already been done, and I have put a curse on my child because of my sin. I never thought I would revert to watching porn, especially while carrying a child, and I’m scared that I have already failed as a mother and have set them up for hardship later in their life.<\/p>\n
Is there anything I can do to change this outcome?<\/p>\n
Thank you for reading this.<\/p>\n\t
Pregnancy can really impact your emotions since your hormones are rapidly changing. Using feelings to make decisions is never wise (Proverbs 28:26), and relying on your emotions while pregnant becomes particularly difficult.<\/p>\n
Notice that your fears are not based on what God said, but on what you imagine might<\/em> happen. However, let’s see what God says about the matter:<\/p>\n “The person who sins will die. The son will not bear the punishment for the father’s iniquity, nor will the father bear the punishment for the son’s iniquity; the righteousness of the righteous will be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked will be upon himself<\/em>” (Ezekiel 18:20).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Sins are not inherited. You are responsible for your sins. Your child, when he grows up, will be responsible for his sins.<\/p>\n While sins are not inherited, there is a problem with parents teaching their sinful ways to their children. You want to conquer this sin so that your child doesn’t pick up your bad habits as he grows.<\/p>\n\t Dear Jeffrey,<\/p>\n Thank you so much for your quick response. It means a lot as I have been quite worried about this for a while now. I’m glad to know that my sins will not affect my baby while they are in the womb; however, as you said, I know I must stop this completely in order to not influence them later on. I am determined to defeat this sin once and for all.<\/p>\n God bless you. Thank you very much for your help.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Questions: Hello, I am a 25-year-old married woman, and I am currently pregnant with my first child. My husband and I have been together for five years and married for over two years. When we were first together, I was at a very low point in my faith. We were not abstaining from sex. 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