I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. I had a dream that if I continued with the sins, I wouldn’t be able to survive them. I stopped it all because I started having really bad dreams. We broke up. We still talk, but we are not sexually active. Do you think he is the cause of my problem?<\/p>\n\t
You have been involved in lewdness and lust, which you justified because it wasn’t sexual intercourse. “Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts<\/em>” (Romans 13:13-14).\u00a0 You knew you were doing wrong, and it is the guilt that led to your nightmares.<\/p>\n Each person is personally responsible for their own actions. “The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself<\/em>” (Ezekiel 18:20). While your boyfriend encouraged you to sin, ultimately you are responsible for the fact that you sinned. You can’t blame anyone else.<\/p>\n Whether you get back together with him is up to you. But you have to resolve to live righteously if you wish to make it to heaven.<\/p>\n\t Thanks for your reply. I never expected it. I try not to sin anymore. Sometimes all these evil thoughts come to my head, but I just quickly stop them. I’m trying my best to please God. It’s just that the nightmares don’t stop. I’ll pray and I have fasted too, but nothing changes.<\/p>\n Sometimes I feel that God doesn’t really care or He has better things to do. I’m always discouraged when I have this nightmare because it has been going on for a while. I am really tired of life. I can be so down when it happens and feel like praying. Sometimes I can pray about it. I really do love God. I think He hasn’t forgiven me. I don’t really have anyone to talk things over with. It’s disturbing to them. Sometimes I wonder how long this is going to last. I don’t even know what God is saying.<\/p>\n\t Why would you assume your nightmares are coming from God? And why would you conclude that God has not forgiven you, assuming you have confessed your sins (I John 1:9) and repented (II Corinthians 7:10-11). God always keeps His word. Your feelings about the matter do not control what God does.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. 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