{"id":43578,"date":"2014-09-25T20:33:00","date_gmt":"2014-09-26T01:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=43578"},"modified":"2025-04-04T10:06:35","modified_gmt":"2025-04-04T15:06:35","slug":"is-it-all-right-to-stay-living-with-someone-until-we-get-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/is-it-all-right-to-stay-living-with-someone-until-we-get-married\/","title":{"rendered":"Is it all right to stay living with someone until we get married?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Okay so on the subject of living together before marriage: I chose this before I knew God. Now, I am stuck in this situation. I have repented for having premarital sex. My boyfriend and I will be getting married soon. Will I go to hell if I die? I have nowhere else to go for the time being. I know I won&#8217;t have sex or anything of that nature with him.<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>Living righteously isn&#8217;t always convenient, but it can always be done.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know how soon &#8220;soon&#8221; is, but you do have options:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You can have a quick marriage at the county courthouse and then have your formal wedding later. These days you often can get married the day you go done to the courthouse.<\/li>\n<li>You or he can move back in with a parent until the wedding day.<\/li>\n<li>You or he can stay with a friend.<\/li>\n<li>You or he can rent a room for a short period until the wedding.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>All of these avoid setting a bad example and decrease the temptation to have sex again before marriage. &#8220;<em>Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother&#8217;s way<\/em>&#8221; (Romans 14:13).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Okay so on the subject of living together before marriage: I chose this before I knew God. Now, I am stuck in this situation. I have repented for having premarital sex. My boyfriend and I will be getting married soon. Will I go to hell if I die? 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