Should Christians fast?<\/a>). Thus, in your personal life and in your religious life, following Christ accurately doesn’t appear to be a concern.<\/p>\nIf I had to guess, I would say that you put more emphasis on your feelings than God’s teaching. “He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks wisely will be delivered<\/em>” (Proverbs 28:26). This is why you can’t seem to leave a bad relationship, even when you know it is sinful. You trust your feelings more than you trust God’s teachings.<\/p>\nThe question is not how you got into sin, but how you get out, and that starts with a resolve to begin following Christ, not just in words but for real. “Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth<\/em>” (I John 3:18). Religion is not what you claim but what you live.<\/p>\n\tQuestion:<\/h2>\n
Amen. I understand everything you said to me. I just need help on how to start all over. How can I get back to that fire that I once used to have? How can I let go and let God? I cannot do it by myself, I’ve tried so many times, but I keep can’t do it in the flesh. If I said my boyfriend and I should get married I will only be fooling myself. I don’t want it to be about me anymore, I want it to be all about Jesus. But I am struggling. I need God’s divine help.<\/p>\n\t
Answer:<\/h2>\n
It starts as simply as doing. “Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does<\/em>” (James 1:21-25).<\/p>\nYou know that living with a man you are not married to is wrong, so one of you has to move out. You know that having sex when you are not married is wrong, so that stops. “For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death. For behold what earnestness this very thing, this godly sorrow, has produced in you: what vindication of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what longing, what zeal, what avenging of wrong! In everything you demonstrated yourselves to be innocent in the matter<\/em>” (II Corinthians 7:10-11). In each thing, you put into practice what God said, regardless of your personal feelings in the matter.<\/p>\n\tResponse:<\/h2>\n
Thank you so much. I highly appreciate your time. I will make a step by letting him go. I will also keep you updated on everything. Please keep me in your prayers.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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