No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth<\/em>” (Luke 16:13). The same is true of sex.<\/p>\nIf we were to sit down and talk, I suspect that if I asked, you would tell me that most of the times you two together revolve around stirring up and satisfying your sexual desires. You’ve stopped dating each other and are more involved in entertaining each other. Sure, sex is fun, but you can’t build a lasting marriage on just sex.<\/p>\n
Notice that while you agree that fornication is wrong, you are seeking to resolve the guilt you feel by avoiding the truth — “I’ll just not go to church and then I don’t have to remember that I’m heading to hell.” That doesn’t change the facts and it won’t solve the problem.<\/p>\n
Thus, I have a simple question: Why don’t the two of you just go down to the courthouse and get married? “But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:9).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Question: Hey, I’m a Christian and go to a Pentecostal church but I seem to always fall into a deep sin of fornication, I end up having sex with my girlfriend. Me and her, we know we’re not supposed to but end up doing it. 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