I want to first say that I’m a Christian according to the Bible, and belong to the local church. My husband and I both are Christians according to the Bible.<\/p>\n
In the past I’ve committed adultery and, even though I have been forgiven, sin had to be atoned for. What I thought was hidden and forgotten by God turned into my husband not only committing adultery but leaving me.<\/p>\n
Why didn’t I know the spiritual damnation of adultery? The Bible says that a wise woman builds up her home but a fool tears it down with her own hands. That was me. Not only did I tear down my home, but I invited Satan to help me. This storm has been horrible!<\/p>\n
I’m happy to say that God has changed me, my walk with Him is stronger than it has ever been, and my husband is making provisions to come home. Praise God!<\/p>\n
However, the other woman may be pregnant. All I can think about is how I was such an evil, contentious, and adultress woman who invited Satan to devour my husband and children. I’m not going to lie, I don’t want this woman to have my husband’s child. I don’t want a constant reminder of our sins. Every day it’s a fight to not only do right but hold on to God’s promises. I’m so broken.<\/p>\n
Is there hope for a sinner like me who committed these unclean acts after becoming Christian? Even though it looks so dire will the Savior rescue this marriage? Making it better than what it was?<\/p>\n\t
Sins have consequences, often not foreseen by the sinner and bigger than expected. “They sow the wind, and reap the whirlwind<\/em>” (Hosea 8:7). I don’t know if your adultery is what led to your husband’s adultery or not. But regardless, in God’s sight, each person is responsible for his own choices. “The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself<\/em>” (Ezekiel 18:20). The sin of one person does not excuse or explain the sin of another.<\/p>\n I’m glad your husband decided to leave his adulterous relationship and return to you. Unfortunately, he has baggage now as a result of his sin. He got a woman pregnant and he is responsible for the result. A part of accepting him back is accepting that he has to deal with the results of his sin.<\/p>\n Marriages can be repaired. “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:10-11). How well your marriage will recover depends on the efforts you and your husband put into the union.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I want to first say that I’m a Christian according to the Bible, and belong to the local church. My husband and I both are Christians according to the Bible. In the past I’ve committed adultery and, even though I have been forgiven, sin had to be atoned for. 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