{"id":41907,"date":"2014-02-18T20:04:00","date_gmt":"2014-02-19T02:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=41907"},"modified":"2022-01-13T20:06:59","modified_gmt":"2022-01-14T02:06:59","slug":"we-just-cant-agree-about-religion-and-the-wedding-is-at-the-end-of-the-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/we-just-cant-agree-about-religion-and-the-wedding-is-at-the-end-of-the-year\/","title":{"rendered":"We just can&#8217;t agree about religion and the wedding is at the end of the year"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Hello,<\/p>\n<p>I am in a relationship. We are planning to get married. The greatest hurdle we have is that my boyfriend is Catholic. Though I was raised Catholic, I converted to a protestant church. He wants me to convert back to Catholicism for the children&#8217;s sake, which I understand as we don&#8217;t want to confuse them. And also because I know the doctrines taught, being raised Catholic and all. But I don&#8217;t want to.<\/p>\n<p>We talk about it, get to a deadlock, then postpone. We had agreed to have time apart as we prayed and sought God on it, but have resumed talking. We live in separate cities. We have agreed not to dwell on it until the end of the month. The wedding is scheduled to be at the end of the year. What do we do? How do we handle the issue?<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>Personally, I would rather both of you focus on being Christians instead of being members of some denomination. See: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/we-are-simply-christians-without-being-members-of-any-denomination-you-can-be-too\/\">We Are Simply Christians Without Being Members of Any Denomination, You Can be Too!<\/a><\/p>\n<p>You two can&#8217;t come to an agreement about a major issue and ignoring this isn&#8217;t going to make it go away. Since you both don&#8217;t want to change and you both agree that it is important for any children you might have, then the only obvious solution is to call it off start looking for someone who does agree with you about religion.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Hello, I am in a relationship. We are planning to get married. The greatest hurdle we have is that my boyfriend is Catholic. Though I was raised Catholic, I converted to a protestant church. He wants me to convert back to Catholicism for the children&#8217;s sake, which I understand as we don&#8217;t want to&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[149,662,1514],"class_list":["post-41907","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-dating","tag-engagement","tag-religion"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":13633,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-as-a-baptist-be-in-a-relationship-with-a-catholic\/","url_meta":{"origin":41907,"position":0},"title":"Should I, as a Baptist, be in a relationship with a Catholic?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"January 17, 2008","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I am a Baptist in a relationship with a Catholic.\u00a0 I don\u2019t agree with a lot that her family does and it seems like I am an outcast because of my religion. Is there any advice that you can give me or links to where I can read on\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":42381,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/my-mother-threatens-not-to-attend-my-wedding-if-i-marry-my-catholic-boyfriend\/","url_meta":{"origin":41907,"position":1},"title":"My mother threatens not to attend my wedding if I marry my Catholic boyfriend","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"March 29, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hi, I am a 20-year-old daughter and student, currently living with my mother. I have a brother whose age isn't far different than mine. My parents divorced when we were little, and my mother gained custody of both of us. We've been living together since. She is a proud\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":20193,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/how-do-i-talk-to-my-catholic-girlfriend-about-catholicism\/","url_meta":{"origin":41907,"position":2},"title":"How do I talk to my Catholic girlfriend about Catholicism?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"September 21, 2009","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I absolutely loved this page: \"What is wrong with Catholicism?\" I feel like there are much more political based things wrong with Catholicism, but I like how you kept it as \"What is wrong with the teachings.\" I loathe the Catholic church for the many reasons posted on your\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":38275,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-marry-the-catholic-woman-im-living-with\/","url_meta":{"origin":41907,"position":3},"title":"Should I marry the Catholic woman I&#8217;m living with?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"April 7, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hey, I'm having a hard time getting my head around a few things. First, I was brought up in a loving Protestant Christian home and lost my way through high school. I am now in my mid-twenties and I'm engaged to a Catholic. We've bought a house and are\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":40967,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/even-though-i-am-no-longer-a-catholic-my-boyfriends-mother-insists-that-he-cannot-marry-a-catholic-or-a-former-catholic\/","url_meta":{"origin":41907,"position":4},"title":"Even though I am no longer a Catholic, my boyfriend&#8217;s mother insists that he cannot marry a Catholic or a former Catholic.","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"November 18, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Dear Minister, I have just read your page regarding the question, \"Do you think a Protestant can marry a Catholic?\" It answered some facets of my own question, but it is not exactly what I need to know. I was born and raised a Catholic, but never felt any\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":37017,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/how-do-i-honor-my-dad-when-he-wont-talk-to-me\/","url_meta":{"origin":41907,"position":5},"title":"How do I honor my dad when he won&#8217;t talk to me?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"February 28, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: My dad and I were always close when I was little. I was a daddy's girl even though he lived in another state. I lived with my mom and only saw him during the summer. We drifted apart when he got married, and I stopped visiting him when I\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41907","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=41907"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41907\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=41907"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=41907"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=41907"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}