Is anal or oral sex between a married couple a sin?<\/a>“<\/p>\nActs of sex that denigrate the other person also would be ruled out.<\/p>\n
An interesting thing to consider is “When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war or be charged with any business; he shall be free at home one year, and bring happiness to his wife whom he has taken<\/em>” (Deuteronomy 24:5). It is the husband’s job to make sure that sex is extremely pleasurable for his wife. He should not be focused on his own personal pleasure but on his wife’s enjoyment. In doing so, he will, of course, find sex pleasurable too. But if he focuses on himself, she will not likely find it pleasurable.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Question: Hello, While I agree completely with everything you said, I struggle with one thing, not about your answer but about sex in marriage. Sex is not discussed, in a church forum, publicly or privately, whether because of modesty, or embarrassment, etc. But as young couples, who come out of a world of sin and…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[63],"class_list":["post-41523","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-sex"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":37394,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/is-divorce-only-allowed-during-the-engagement\/","url_meta":{"origin":41523,"position":0},"title":"Is divorce only allowed during the engagement?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"February 27, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Regarding\u00a0How could a woman in an adulterous marriage have the right to remarry after a divorce?\u00a0I believe there is something very important you are missing. 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