{"id":41476,"date":"2014-01-06T20:41:00","date_gmt":"2014-01-07T02:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=41476"},"modified":"2022-01-06T20:46:22","modified_gmt":"2022-01-07T02:46:22","slug":"how-can-i-express-my-anger-in-a-way-that-is-healthy-and-in-a-way-god-would-want-us-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/how-can-i-express-my-anger-in-a-way-that-is-healthy-and-in-a-way-god-would-want-us-to\/","title":{"rendered":"How can I express my anger in a way that is healthy and in a way God would want us to?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Hello,<\/p>\n<p>I would like to wish you a very happy New Year. This year, I want to focus even more on becoming a better Christian and learning what God requires of us.<\/p>\n<p>My question is in regards to anger. Sometimes, like all humans, I get angry in life. The causes for the anger vary between many things. Sometimes I may get a little bit angry or annoyed, and other times I can get very angry, depending on the situation. As Mister Rogers said, it can get pretty scary when someone gets angry. So, my question is: How can I express my anger in a way that is healthy and in a way God would want us to?<\/p>\n<p>Thank you!<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>There is a myth that emotions have to be &#8220;let out&#8221; to get over them. But what God teaches is that our emotions need to be controlled. &#8220;<em>Whoever has no rule over his own spirit Is like a city broken down, without walls<\/em>&#8221; (Proverbs 25:28).<\/p>\n<p>The real question is not how to express your anger, but what you decide to get angry about. I would like you to read the following:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/bible-studies\/moral-principles-for-young-people\/the-wolves-within\/\">The Wolves Within<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/bible-studies\/moral-principles-for-young-people\/of-gnats-and-other-annoyances\/\">Of Gnats and Other Annoyances<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/bible-studies\/genesis-a-study-of-the-beginning\/josephs-youth\/anger\/\">Anger<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/controlling-our-temper\/\">Controlling Our Temper<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t<h2>Response:<\/h2>\n<p>Hello,<\/p>\n<p>Thank you very much for those links. They were very helpful.<\/p>\n<p>I will try my best to control myself and not get angry over things that shouldn&#8217;t be, as I have learned that anger and hate only affect myself negatively and ultimately do not solve the problem.<\/p>\n<p>Thank you!<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Hello, I would like to wish you a very happy New Year. This year, I want to focus even more on becoming a better Christian and learning what God requires of us. My question is in regards to anger. Sometimes, like all humans, I get angry in life. The causes for the anger vary&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[1503],"class_list":["post-41476","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-anger"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":20748,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/it-seems-like-i-argue-with-my-boyfriend-every-other-day-how-do-i-get-peace-in-my-life\/","url_meta":{"origin":41476,"position":0},"title":"It seems like I argue with my boyfriend every other day. 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